Alpha Female & Submissive: Choose One or Be Both!

So, I was having a discussion with some Sista-Friends about the role of males and females in a committed relationship and along the line, I stated that I love being submissive in a relationship and was shocked at the gasps.

Am I wrong in expressing that a Woman will naturally submit to the Right Man? 🤷🏾‍♀️

Today’s feminists will attempt to cast stones at me for such a statement especially as I am a self-proclaimed Alpha Female, but I stand boldly by the conviction of allowing myself to be submissive in a relationship. Whilst the radical Christians will quote Ephesians 5:22-24 about the biblical views of roles within a Christian marriage but I can also argue that in Ephesians 5:21: the bible states, ‘submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ’ (that is both male and female). Anyway, that is a different topic for another day.

Firstly, it is good to note there’s nothing wrong with submission at all, it is not Slavery. It does have a negative connotation in society, it can be seen to mean that the woman is less important or lower than her partner who she has chosen to submit to and that’s not the case.

So, back to why I said what I said and stand by it! I am a very dominant woman, (some might call me an Alpha Female and I can humbly claim that), as an entrepreneur and a leader within the community, I find that I play the hats of so many roles so when I get home, I just want my partner/husband to show that HE is willing to lead, not boss me around but lead with patience, love, and kindness and there is nothing wrong with that. That does not demean who I am or my strength as a woman, NO!

Today’s women have stepped up and are able to be independent, but sometimes don’t necessarily want to be. They don’t want to be the Alpha Female/Leader/Boss Lady all the time so at HOME, they want the decisions to be made by the Man/King (the head of the household); so yes, we want our men to lead but if he can’t do it, then we will have to step up (as it’s usually expected) because certainly, we cannot stand by and allow the man to take us backward. Or can we?

It’s okay to submit to the right man/partner/husband as a leader of the household but in these modern times, a lot of men try to force submission on women by trying to be superior or be a tyrant because they don’t understand how to properly provide and care for their partner/wives and the household.

Trust and believe that women will naturally submit to a man they feel safe and secure with but the men need to learn how to become better leaders; love and respect their partners/wives in a way that will enable the woman to confidently submit to them. When a woman is loved correctly submission comes willingly. 

Do you think that an Alpha Female can be Submissive in a committed relationship?

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  1. Princess Kunny
    October 29, 2020 / 4:51 pm

    Yes,most definitely

  2. Susan
    March 23, 2021 / 3:10 am

    Absolutely. Very well-expressed as to how and to whom an Alpha female will submit.

    • April 6, 2021 / 11:32 pm

      Thank you so much Susan for your feedback and I am glad you enjoyed the post. Please do subscribe or follow my blog to be notified of future posts. Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©

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