This is a short blogpost but it has truly got me pondering on people and relationships or rather expectation on friendships.

So my dear friend RiRi Okoye of ririokoye.blogpost.com had a FaceBook post on friendships and the high expectations that comes with it (YouTube clip) and it got me thinking, which I have been doing alot on evaluating friendships and classifying what or who makes a friend or rather a REAL Friend.

Recently there was a scenario with a certain friend who invited some of us back to her house after her child’s party then proceeded to say (not politely mind you 😠) that she expects us all to clean up her house before we leave as she does because (according to her), does not want an untidy house. Well, I never – I had to gently bind my mouth from saying what my spirit was really wanting to speak out so decided to be the bigger person and help out a little bit; that was until she snapped at some of the other ladies. That attitude was my clue to up and leave so I decided to make my exit. I have also seen other instances from other people having huge expectations on what is termed friendship.

That has got me thinking on whether people really look at friendships as coming with a lot of expectations, as per what they can get out of it. What happened to just being friends with no extra strings attached…

I have had the same core group of friends since the ages of 8/9 and although, we are now in our mid-40s (looking younger though, I must say 😉) and living miles away from each other (in various countries and continents); we still maintain those relationships with no expectations apart from being real to each other and that is what is has made it last so long. Even the friendships I had made in my early twenties are still kicking with fun and spontaneity as gathered by the past few weeks that we have had. I love that environment where I can totally be myself without any airs or graces. And these friendships come with no pressure or expectations, just total realness (if there is such a word) and support for each other.

About a week ago, my BFF of over 35 years randomly sent this photo to me which totally sums up what our friendship is all about. We can go months without talking to each other or years of not seeing each other (different countries) but nothing changes when we make that odd contact. It goes to sum up that it takes maturity and wisdom to understand and maintain genuine friendships.

So let’s discuss how you value your friendships and whether you have ever placed expectations on any or all of them?

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For the past few weeks, I was behind in my blogging schedule due to so much chaos around me (work and family life) and sadness (loss of some close friends and family members) which was beyond my control. At one point, I couldn’t even seem to point my finger on what is holding or manipulating my emotions which was all over the place and so felt so misplaced.

And when I get in that emotional state, I act odd (either shut down partially or totally from people; get very irritable towards any single thing; not sociable and very sensitive that I can break down at any point}. The latter statement of ‘breaking down’ is a norm of mine that within my group of friends, I am often known as a very emotional (polite way of saying ‘cry-baby’) person and I do agree with that statement. Ain’t no shame in shedding a tear or two; it goes to show that I am human and besides crying cleanses the eyes (lol).

So what is emotion and what causes it? It can be defined as a strong feeling deriving from one’s circumstances, mood, or relationships with others. And being emotional means: (of a person) having feelings that are easily excited and openly displayed.

So for me at this point in my life – emotion is at the core of every experience I have been involved in whether it be a birth or death or birthday or marriage… I am emotional (point blank).

So now, I have chosen to take my JOY back and focus on the good times ahead bearing in mind that life continues always whether in the positive or negative. I now constantly remind myself to protect that JOY in me and not let people, situations or circumstances take it away cause then the power will no longer their to control but mine.

There you have it: Protect and Own your JOY and most of all, experience the fun in IT because it is at the core of your Life’s Experience…

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Happy Monday Beloveds ❤️. Yea I know I sound so happy but it wasn’t like that early this morning. There’s always something about Monday mornings that leave me gloomy and just want to sleep in some more but then I remember that some people didn’t have the opportunity like I had to experience this Monday or any other Mondays afterwards so I had to ‘check’ myself and be thankful for the grace for another day to make an impact wherever I go. Now I can’t promise that I won’t moan on Monday mornings but having this on my wall is a reminder of what gratitude is all about. Seize the day and make it Impactful 👌🏾

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How many ‘once upon a time…‘ moments have you had in life and how has that affected you in this present time?

I still am encountering the ‘once upon a time …‘ moments at this stage of my adult life (which has been rather interesting and somewhat overwhelming) but have decided to journal each step or moment and reflect on the aftermath!

What about you?

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