Empowering-Your-Employees-through-Question-only-ConversationsReflecting on the remaining  months of 2018, I have decided that I really need to empower my Tribe aka My Friendship Circle or in this case, My Followers more in finding and increasing their potential.

One of my passion is empowering people to make themselves accessible to the world in terms of opportunities; whether it be a career, business, relationships or otherwise. I take it as my ‘gift of service’ back to society. I feel that everyone has a talent which can be used to their advantage thus no excuse is needed as to why they cannot make it in life; be it financially or career-wise.

There are so many companies that focus on freelance work that can be done alongside your normal work or why you are waiting for the job which can act or generate a second source of revenue for you.

I have taken the privilege to list some down as I am participating in such and enjoying the rewards that come with it:

The detail here is how to sell yourself when registering for work. You are a product but how do you market the portfolio which is YOURSELF.

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Your portfolio plays a very important role in your quest for good freelance work on these Freelancing websites. This particular section displays your past and present projects, pieces that you’re particularly proud of and that should encourage employers to hire you.

Normally you might just upload screenshots and files and choose the right categories, but it’s possible to tweak your portfolio in ways that will really convince the employer to hire you as his contractor. Here are four excellent tips on how to make your portfolio work better for you:

1. Have a portfolio piece for each service you provide.

You’re a freelancer who specializes in Service A, B, and C. If you’re aiming for employers looking for these three services, showcase work where you used each of your specialties in particular.

For example, I’m a copywriter that loves working with product descriptions, blogging, and website copy. To show employers that these are the services I provide and that I’m good at, I upload three to five portfolio items that display my latest product copywriting, blogging projects, and website copywriting projects. Each one is categorized separately and has their own unique project description.

2. Write a well-written description for each portfolio piece.

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What’s important here is that it’s short and concise enough to tell the prospect what you did with this project, what skills you used, and how you successfully nailed the employer’s goals.  One or two short paragraphs should do the trick.

3. Update your portfolio with the latest screenshots and links.

A screenshot of your latest published article, website, or logo, plus a link to each, will certainly help keep your chances of winning freelance projects high. The employer can easily take a look at the screenshot to see what the project looks like, and then click on the link to see the actual work up close.

If you’ve made any changes to your old portfolio pieces, make sure to take and upload a new screenshot of it and that its URL is correct.

4. Delete or revamp old projects that don’t reflect your skills as a freelancer.

DeleteChances are you have old projects in your portfolio that you’ve outgrown already. Now that you’ve honed and improved your skills, you wouldn’t want your future employers to see obsolete projects that don’t truly reflect how good you’ve become.

Your best bet would be to either revamp these old projects using your latest skills or delete them all together. If you feel that these projects still matter to you, you can edit them by applying new techniques to make them look shiny and new again. Otherwise, just delete these projects and make room for new ones.

Here’s a bonus tip: Don’t settle. Every project you bring to the table comes with a hefty side dish of experience and growth, both of which will make you a more valuable professional in the market.

Research these sites to see which skills-set you can profile and provide to clients. There are FREE to register but you must market/brand yourself as the job only goes to the best or those who sell themselves. This improvement is what you want your employers to see, so don’t ever hesitate to push out excellent work each and every time. As soon as your employer gives permission to use the finished project in your portfolio, upload the screenshot, paste the link, and point it out to the next employer in line.

congratulations-1Lastly, may I be the first person to congratulate you on this new step of empowerment and encourage you to spread your wings to the world of opportunities around and available to you!

Take a look at your portfolio right now. How is it doing? Is it bringing in new interview invitations, or does it need a fresh start?

The Renaissance Journey continues, so get the right shoes to start the journey …

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So I got told a few weeks ago that most times I exhibit the Alpha Female traits which I guess can be somewhat true and so got me putting on my journalistic specs to do some research. Being an alpha female is, for the most part, pretty awesome from what I gathered. Now understand that this is not a male-bashing article but the alpha female is the new definition is what it means to be a woman. She is feminine, fierce, and intelligent. She is the prototype for women in the future.female-alpha

The Alpha Female is a strong, majestic female. She can often be intimidating to those around her and isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants. She is so successful in her career and has a solid group of friends to rely on. You must admit that there is nothing quite as brilliant as a woman with confidence and ambition. The alpha female is known to be supreme among females as other females often look to her for leadership. However there are some who feel threatened, because this woman tolerates no nonsense and does not believe in game playing and one-upmanship.

She (The Alpha Female) is known as the Highly Successful, Self-Confident, and Independent Woman. 

So tell me, how would you know an alpha female when you meet her? Here are ten ways as derived from Paired Life then ascertain whether you fall into any of those traits:

  • She is never embarrassed to ask for what she wants: “Assertive” is not a word that she is uncomfortable with. In fact, being assertive is second nature to her. She believes that all right-thinking people should negotiate explicitly to get their desires and needs met. She believes you are responsible for your own life. Refusing to ask for what one wants is anathema to her. Negotiation is what life is all about. Holding her tongue, toeing the line, and waiting for others to magically notice and reward her is simply not something she’d ever do. Her motto is that life is for the takers and participators.
  • alpha-female-about-meShe enjoys being in an equal or superior position to men: And why not, I will add? The idea that she must subvert or minimalise her attributes, intelligence, or other strong characteristics because she is a woman is so old fashioned. Who says that men have to be the breadwinners? Not her. To her, traditional gender roles are just so 19th century. She believes that a confident, intelligent, and mature man is not threatened by a powerful and highly successful woman. In fact, such men should be overjoyed that such women exist. Furthermore, she believes that men are just people, no more, no less. She does not believe in playing the weak damsel in distress. In fact, she is loathe to play silly, coquettish games of any kind. Inane affectations sicken her, to say the very least. Her motto: Weak and insecure men need not apply!
  • She is not passive regarding the pursuance of any type of pleasure: To her, being a woman is not equated with being passive. Not at all. Being indecisive and wishy-washy is not in her nature. She is oftentimes the initiator in seeking all avenues of fulfilment, including the sexual. To be passive in her eyes means to be acquiescent in life and she is anything but. To her, passivity is equivalent to being owned and she does not want to be owned—not by tangible and/or intangible constructs. She is proactive in her approach to life. To her, life is for the takers!
  • She does not mind being wildly and uninhibitedly feminine and sexy: To her, being feminine, beautiful, and sexy are not antitheses to being independent, powerful, and liberated. In fact, the former are analogous to the latter. She views sexual stereotypes as limited and atavistic labels that preclude women from becoming full human beings. She believes that people transcend stereotypes, which are only artificial constructs that limit individuals. To her, the old stereotype of being a feminine woman is morbidly suffocating. She refuses to believe that being beautiful, feminine, sexy, liberated, powerful, and independent is oxymoronic.
  • She does not mind if a man earns less than she does, as long as he contributes to the relationship and upholds his end regarding household responsibilities: Who says that a man has to earn more than a woman? Not her. She does not subscribe to such outdated and utterly sexist paradigms and philosophies. She believes what a person earns should have nothing to do with their gender. She feels that it is quite normal and acceptable for a woman to out-earn a man. She does not mind being the sole breadwinner in the family, if need be.
  • She believes in having a career to establish her self-worth and independence: She believes in being a contributor in life and that when one contributes, one becomes truly a full, worthy, and authentic person. Furthermore, a contributor always leaves a posthuimagesmous mark on society and the world at large. In other words, contributors make an imprint on life. A career helps her do that. It’s a way for her to use and exhibit her intelligence and talent for the world to see. She also gets a sense of self-actualization. In her eyes, nothing makes a woman more self-fulfilled than a satisfying career. A career means power and power has its own rewards. Being powerful means being a shot-caller, which translates into ownership. Nothing makes an alpha woman happier than to own and be in charge of her destiny.
  • She thrives on being in responsible positions. Being responsible for others equates to power for her: She believes that she is more than capable of the task at hand. Since she knows that for a fact, who is better than she to assume high powered and responsible positions? She is the best at what she does and no one can do it better. To her, power is an integral part of the human construct: Either one has it (which means that one can be highly proactive and influential in the events of humankind) or one is utterly powerless, always bowing to the desires of others. She refuses to be put on a proverbial leash. She only answers to herself. That power allows her to become a mentor and help others by cultivating, encouraging, and developing their human potential. She does this for her own good and for that of the firm.
  • She refuses to believe in the antiquated concept that one becomes less agile and more infirm with age: Age is just a number to her, one that means nothing in the larger scheme of things. She is the type who remains vital and sharp in her old age. She thinks that anyone who succumbs to the atavistic stereotypes of age needs a good psychiatrist, or better yet, should starting broadening his/her life perception, and fast! She, for one, is not going to become an old lady. Think of Betty White (a nonagenarian) and Rita Moreno (an octogenarian)— both vibrant, lively ladies who totally exemplify that one is only as old as one believes. These ladies get even fiercer with each passing year!
  • 70536ea6978d45dd8828a77712121f78She does not complain or whine: She sees complaining and whining as abject passivity and a refusal to improve the negative circumstances of one’s life. She figures that if one is mentally healthy and mature, one can remedy one’s life instead of whining about it. She knows that everyone’s life has some amount of difficulty and hardship. To just complain and whine is a total waste of energy. That energy is better used in assessing, challenging, and overcoming those adversities. Besides, other people are uninterested in listening to your lamentations. She staunchly believes that complainers are wimps who should be horsewhipped into maturity! There is nothing further to say.
  • She doesn’t believe in excuses: She believes if one makes one bed, he/she should lie in it, either for good or bad. In other words, one reaps what one sows. If one exerts little or no effort, one shouldn’t expect a reward. She finds it ludicrous that many people want success in life but refuse to put in the necessary work, planning, and sacrifices to get it. When they do not achieve their dreams, they blame everyone and everything but themselves. This excuse-making really incenses her to the nth degree. Stop with the excuses already, she insists. Her motto is that each person has what he/she deserves, nothing more and nothing less!

originalTo summarise, the alpha female is a no-nonsense woman who’s supremely confident and self-assured. She knows what she wants and how to ask for and obtain it. She is a true realist: no sugarcoating for her. She likes life at its most unadulterated essence. She appreciates the good and can learn from the bad. She also knows how to make the more negative aspects and situations of life exceedingly beneficial.

She does not believe in antiquated gender roles. She is beyond stereotypes. She is a take-charge woman who makes no excuses. She is and has what she earns and deserves.

The alpha female is unique! In fact, she is the prototype of women in the 21st century and beyond.

The Alpha Woman Is the Future!

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This March is celebrated as Women’s History Month, which is an annual declared month that highlights the contributions of women to events in history and contemporary society, corresponding with International Women’s Day on March 8

Am sure you will remember earlier on in the year, we celebrated the centenary of the 1918 Representation of the People Act which gave the vote to some women for the first time #Vote100 and the 1928 Equal Franchise Act which gave the vote to all women over the age of 21.

Not being bias but I strongly believe WE are the backbone of society. We have so many qualities that make us stand out like Empathy, Strength, Attention to Detail, Calm under Pressure, Intuition, Being Open, Support, Collaborators amongst others.

A woman is the only person I know that can carry the burden of the family without the expectation that someone will feel her pain or cry her tears. She is always the first one to wake up and the last to go to bed. She is courageous and independent. A woman will do whatever it takes to survive and my final phase is that img_0833
SHE is the backbone that holds everyone together (. . . behind every strong man there is a strong woman).

Well, I decided to revisit an old blog post titled: Who is My Elizabeth? About this time last year, I was pondering about my 2017 and the excitable journey ahead and whilst doing that; had time to evaluate on various relationships  I felt that the journey I was embarking on, needed some serious, loyal and dependable passengers on the ride with me so it is essential for clarity and oneness of mind who I had to chose. 

It is well known that you get a group of women together and we can talk and talk for hours (yes we do like a talk or two as we can’t help it), that is how God wired us. When I have something big happening in my life, after talking to my beloved mother, my next impulse is to call some of my inner circle of sistas (you should always have an inner circle of dependable friends) to seek counsel from or just pour yourself out to with no judgment whatsoever. I have been blessed to surround myself with some amazing sista-network like Inspired Women of Worth (iWoW) or my amazing 89’ers from the boarding school days at the prestigious Federal Government Girls College, Abuloma (FGGC Abuloma) in Nigeria.

I remember then receiving a text from some of our inner circle of sistas on a topic that had been on my mind and it was maryandelizabeth1titled: Who is my ELIZABETH? This was serious food for thought!

When Mary, was given the biggest news of her life, she had no husband to confide in. Her first instinct after her visit from the angel of the Lord was to immediately go out and seek Godly counsel from her cousin Elizabeth. Mary didn’t waste any time, she went with haste. 

As a Christian woman, who is your Elizabeth? Who do you rush to in a hurry? Who do you seek for your Godly counsel? If you don’t have an Elizabeth of your very own, ask God to put one in your life. Below are a few characteristics to look for in your Elizabeth. 

Your Elizabeth should:

  • Have a steadfast walk with the Lord.
  • Give Godly counsel in truth and love.
  • Encourage you in your walk in faith.
  • Encourage you in your singleness or marriage, studies, career, and relationships.
  • Be someone whom you desire to learn from.
  • Pray for you and encourage you when you are down and out with life stress.
  • Rejoice in your successes.
  • See your God-given gifts and encourage you to use them.

Your Elizabeth should not:

  • Gossip with others about things you have shared.
  • Disrespect your partner or family.
  • Remind you of past failures, or make fun of your shortcomings.
  • Pull you away from others.
  • Discourage you from serving the Lord.
  • Be in competition with you, or insecure in your achievements.
  • Your Elizabeth should not take the Glory of God for herself by saying I prayed for her that’s why she is driving this car or that’s why she has gotten that job.

The last photo (above) shows some of the most important ‘Elizabeths‘, I have known all my life and though, we may not speak often, I know that there is a listening ear who believes in me and my purpose and I would not trade them for the world! This is what you call Sista-Love.

Take a moment, evaluate those around your circle then ask yourself, “Who is my ELIZABETH?” 

Happy Women’s History Month Beloveds

Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady © 

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Have you ever heard the acronym for ‘J-O-B’ which stands for “Just Over Broke.” Food for Thoughts eh!

Funny how at the beginning of each year, we all get our financial planning caps on – making that claim to be financially free by end of the year. The question is: how many of us actually get to achieve that goal?

Earlier in the month, I was sent a FaceBook video clip titled  ‘Stop Going Broke Trying to Impress People’ by MJ Harris (an internationally recognized financial services CEO and motivational success teacher), which was to enable me on this financial journey (part of my yearly Manifesto) that I am on. I have to honestly say that watching the video clip spoke the truth on all sorts of level but the most important truth received was: Being Real to Myself!

My interpretation from watching the video (see below) was a summary of the ideology of money and its definition or purposed definition: ‘Poor is eternal, Broke is temporary’. Questions starting flowing through my mind querying whether we ever do get ‘broke’ or ‘poor’? Does such a word like ‘poor’ or ‘broke’ actually manifest itself in one’s life? Below are a few answers I sourced online:

  • Poor is a state of mind, broke is a state of wallet.
  • Poor is when you don’t know how to manage money, broke is when you go bankrupt because you can’t pay medical bills.
  • Poor people are always broke, broke people are broke for a while.

So my question is: are you tired of being poor or broke? There was a time I used to call those words like it was part of my daily vocabulary because I never had the financial education need to curb my lifestyle and needs (or should I say wants).

I can honestly say that I have never been poor but it has not been long since I have been ‘BROKE’ (actually as of last week, I was – hmmmm), and I can still remember exactly what it felt like. I can picture all the ugly details of the way I used to struggle; the empty bank account, the awkward moments, the feelings of despair and embarrassed to approach my family for help or even friends and keep up appearances so not to be ostracised. Well, truth be told again – I have not totally learned my lessons but step-by-step, I am getting there.

I recall Iyanla Vanzant during an affirmation session years ago encouraging us to substitute the word ‘broke’ to being ‘temporary out of money‘. That changed my mindset in ways I cannot even describe. Broke is how much you keep and not how much you make? I made up my mind that for the rest of my life, I have to continue to increase wealth and leave a legacy so my mindset is being tuned to challenging myself financially like cutting off unnecessary expenses (for starters).  Being temporary out of money has given me an entirely different perspective on cash flow, debt, and my own financial well-being. I have learned that there is a big difference between looking like ‘you have money’ and ‘actually having money’.

IMG_8700When I was younger, I took the concept of lifestyle inflation to a whole new level. Shopping was my ‘middle name’. I just knew I had to have the best things in life (no matter the cost) but as I became a mother, I had to learn about living within my means and the real-life consequences of unplanned purchases (well another truth be told – this is still a constant challenge). And most importantly, I have become willing to do anything and everything to make sure that I will never be broke AGAIN. And YES, I must confess that I have failed on numerous occasions since becoming an adult but some of the lessons from that part of my life have stuck with me.

My target to be completely out of DEBT is by April 2018 and quite frankly, once I am out of debt, I have made a pledge never to put myself in that situation again. I made myself a promise to rise above my situation and start with a clean slate. And I am doing just that. 

Have you ever been flat broke? If so, what did you learn from it? 

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Research these sites (oDesk, Guru, and PeopleperHour) to see which skills-set you can profile. There are FREE to register but you must market/brand yourself as the job only goes to the best or those who sell themselves. When you treat your profile as a conversation with a potential employer, more ideal employers will be drawn to you. 

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Listed below are some mistakes that keep you unemployed because your profile has not sold YOU.

Mistake #1: Not thinking of yourself as a product. Even though everyone on oDesk is in the service business, you have to think of yourself as a product.  Think of your picture and profile as the packaging, your description as the package design (or the copy that gets the potential customer excited about the product), and your skills and knowledge as the features and capabilities of the product.

When your potential clients are searching the database and results pop up, it’s like looking across of grocery shelf filled with boxes.  So your job is to describe and design yourself in a way that attracts exactly the kinds of jobs that you are best at and clients will hire you for again and again.

Mistake #2:  An unprofessional picture. You must have a professional picture as part of your profile.  It doesn’t have to be professionally taken, but it should be a headshot, meaning that it’s taken above the shoulders.  Dress as you would when going into an interview.  

In so many ways, when a client sees your pictures, it’s as if you just walked through the office door.  So look your best and have a friendly smile.  ‘oDesk, Guru and PeopleperHour’ are not ‘Facebook’, so avoid using overly casual pictures with silly clothes or hats.

Mistake #3:  Your description is about your goals and not my needs. As a potential employer, I’m coming to these freelance sites with a specific project.  If a description starts with your objective to grow your business or the kind of client you are looking for, I pass this by because it doesn’t match what I’m looking for. 

The way to get chosen is to focus on the keywords that best describe the tasks or skills that your ideal client is looking for.  For example, if you are good at interviewing and doing market research on the phone, write that down because that is the task clients would be hiring you for. Your goal is to describe the talents and tasks that you love to do and that clients would want.

Mistake #4:  Your description is too conversational or just a list. Your description is the only face-to-face conversation you will have with a potential client. Don’t count on them calling you for an interview unless the description sounds like a professional introduction.  

The best and most appealing descriptions are those that are friendly, a little conversational (not overly so), and loaded with tasks, capabilities, and talents.  Great descriptions are written in full sentences and say things like, “I’m great at writing keyword rich articles that sell.” Or “I can complete an hour-long transcription in two hours from the time you give it to me.”

Mistake #5:  Too many different skills and abilities in the description. While it’s possible that you have many skills, talents, and abilities, it’s best to focus on the ones you love to do most of the ones where you perform the highest quality work.  Placing too many skills in an overview description won’t attract more customers, it will attract less.  

When potential clients see too many skills, they won’t know which ones you do best. Focus on what you want to be known for.  You can list the others, but don’t describe or “sell” more than five unrelated skills — especially when these skills are different such as programming and copywriting.  If that is your talent than only focus on those two and don’t confuse people with more.

Lastly, may I be the first person to congratulate you on this new step of empowerment and encourage you to spread your wings to the world of opportunities around and available to you.

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Sometimes Passion Just Isn’t Enough

Those who know me well are aware that one of my passions is empowering. I love speaking into people’s life and encouraging them to find their true God’s given potential for their lives.

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It truly excites me to see someone I called ‘my own’ walk into and operate in THEIR CALLING.

Discovering your God-given purpose or gift is really only the first step in creating a fulfilling life. I sourced this article and it was as if the author was speaking my mind so enjoy and be enlightened to reach your POTENTIAL.

Don’t waste time pursuing a passion you haven’t taken the time to perfect. There, I said it! I had to get it off my chest once and for all. In the pop tart, microwave, faster than the speed of light world we live in today, entitlement runs rampant throughout our community. The days of working hard to achieve a goal have basically been tossed out the window. All we know is it’s ours and we want it now; and not like right now, but like yesterday! Who cares if you are naturally good at something? While you’re somewhere pouting about people not recognizing how “good” you are, there are others out there taking the same skill and making it GREAT!

Once you’ve been fortunate enough to realize what the gift is, I believe the equation to true passion driven success may resemble something like this:

GIFT + PASSION + PLANNING + PERFECTING + PURSUING + TIME = PROSPERITY

The problem in our culture is we want to acknowledge the fact that we are passionate about something and just pursue and prosper! Forget planning and who has time to perfect? And don’t mention time! We don’t have time to put the time in. We just want to throw something together and get the reward right now! But honestly, whatever happened to this concept of putting time in, honing your skills, paying your dues? What happened to our ability to recognize that most overnight successes actually work on their craft for 5, 10 or even 15 years before we even hear a faint whisper about who they are?

Are You Really Pursuing The Right GoalsLet’s be clear, your gift is the thing you do the best with the least amount of effort. Your passion is the activity you have a strong desire for or the thing that gives you the most energy. Just because you are passionate about something, it doesn’t mean that it’s your God-given gift.

In other words, it doesn’t mean you’re even good at it. With planning and perfecting, you may become better, but you’d have to put some time into even figure that out and well, that’s where most folks get lost in wasting precious time pursuing dreams that will likely never come true.

Now, with those things I do actually have a shot in the dark at, i.e. speaking, coaching, etc., it’s my job to be intentional about the actions I take on my way to pursuing my passion. In other words, I have to plan ways to exercise my talent as I look towards being recognized for it. It is also my job to perfect this gift which I am passionate about.

Remember, just because I’m good at it, that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t put effort into being great at it. Not to mention, there are people that I will meet along the way that can help me fulfill my goals that much faster. How will I meet them, though if I’m not actively and purposefully putting time into attending the right seminars, joining the right organizations and obtaining the education that will help me perfect what I say I’m passionate about?

follow-your-passion-704Lastly, remember that being prosperous doesn’t always refer to profit or financial gain. Prosper means to flourish, to thrive or to grow. That may mean financially, but can also mean spiritually, emotionally or mentally. Prospering can mean that you’re just all around happier because you’re inundated with work that you love to do.

In a nutshell, it’s time to get passionate about your gift and then put some effort into planning, perfecting and then pursuing it! If you’re not making progress on something you’re passionate about perhaps it’s because you’re skipping a few steps!

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783FEF6F-FA27-4FD0-BFC9-B86D294A4782Attention, attention: you’ve made it to the final week of 2017!  3 days left – wow, how time has flown. I swear it was only January 2017 a few months ago and now, we are about to enter the year of 2018…

So the question I frequently ask myself is what have I achieved this year to propel me to strive harder for 2018. It is so tempting to go from one accomplishment to the next and then spend time planning the 2018 Manifesto like I do. But yet, whilst planning the future, we tend to overlook the magical moment of the past year and all we have achieved. So please permit me to challenge you finishing off 2017 by celebrating the numerous blessings that came your way and make it a habit to constantly applaud yourself for a job well done.

Here are some simple guidelines to celebrate YOUR 2017:

Ensure to take inventory of your 2017: Ever since I grasped the importance of having 1C1A720B-6806-4F19-AE7B-295CDED0F82E
goals and creating a yearly vision board, I always ensure that every year-end, I re-evaluated my Manifesto whilst acknowledging my blessings and achievements.  First I list “Goals I achieved personally and professionally through focused effort” followed by “Goals I helped others achieve.” Next I list moments and experiences that didn’t have to happen for me  and others from a clean bill of health to making new friends. Taking the time to cheer for the many things that went right reminds us how far we have come.

Salute the Small Things: This year, I learnt to not stress the small things and just relax. Appreciating like taking the stairs at work (to improve my Fitbit game – I am competitive like that), being wise and more sensitive to others when giving feedback. Decide to start patting yourself on the back for a job well done on a daily basis (whether small or large) and give yourself the credit you deserve.

B137520F-3555-4908-995F-D5CFCEB46260Get that Bubbly ready: If like me, you are so rushed off your feet with activities. Take your time in the evening to unwind a glass of bubbly. I have discovered that I need no reason to kick off my shoes after work and celebrate with a glass of prosecco and nibbles… So the next time you are grocery shopping buy a bottle or two of bubbly. And when you have a kick-ass day or good news come your way, pop it open. Life is a gift we unpack each day. Take every opportunity to clap and raise a glass.

Celebrate with a Birthday Bash: This year, I decided to celebrate my 45th birthday with a special dinner of close friends. Yea, it kinda broke the bank but I decided (after a year of bereavements) that I need to enjoy each birthday that I am given as it is worth celebrating. My 2018 birthday event is already being planned to commemorate the miracle that is ME doing an exciting activity with people I love.

Look How Far You’ve Come: You may not be where you want to be just yet, but hey,
B30CF8B6-57AB-4FAF-A12A-6CFA9C729A31you are not where you used to be. Look back at the beginning of 2017 and previous years and see the difference you have made in growth – spiritually, mentally, financially, emotionally and physically. Go back and connect with the person you once were. The think how proud they will be of you now.

Now go get ready to usher YOUR 2018 with a bang and excitement.

Happy 2018 Beloveds….

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Those within my circle know how passionate I am about Women’s Empowerment and ensuring that they all have the appropriate skills and confidence necessary to secure a job and create a healthy lifestyle for themselves in the workplace, marketplace and community.

I have numerous virtual mentors and role models and one of them is Sheryl Sandberg, who is a business leader, activist, author, philanthropist, inspirational figure, and a powerful role model to women and girls who want to make their mark in the world.

Sandberg became the chief operating officer of Facebook in 2008, after serving as a vice president at Google for six years. She was the brains behind the social media giant’s shift towards profitability in 2010 and was the first woman to be elected to the company’s board of directors in 2012.

A former chief of staff in the Bill Clinton White House and outspoken advocate for women’s rights, Sandberg also sits on the boards of the Walt Disney Corporation, Women for Women International, the Center for Global Development, and V-Day, a global movement to end violence against women and girls. She is the author of the bestselling Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead, and the founder of Leanin.org, a charitable organization devoted to empowering women to achieve their ambitions.

Sandberg is known as one of America’s most influential executives and back in 2012, was named by Time magazine as one of the 100 most influential people in the world. Today her net worth is estimated at over $1billion.

Sheryl Sandberg is well known for her inspirational quotes on Life, Leadership and Equality as listed below (credit: goalcast)

a) You are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. Like a muscle, you can build it up, draw on it when you need it. In that process, you will figure out who you really are — and you just might become the very best version of yourself.

b) Not taking failures personally allows us to recover — and even to thrive.

c) Just as our bodies have a physiological immune system, our brains have a psychological immune system — and there are steps you can take to help kick it into gear.

d) Finding gratitude and appreciation is key to resilience. People who take the time to list things they are grateful for are happier and healthier.

e) The easy days ahead of you will be easy. It is the hard days — the times that challenge you to your very core — that will determine who you are. You will be defined not just by what you achieve, but by how you survive.

f) We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.

g) The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have.

h) Every woman I know, particularly the senior ones, has been called too aggressive at work. We know in gender-blind studies that men are more aggressive in their offices than women. We know that. Yet we’re busy telling all the women that they’re too aggressive. That’s the issue.

i) Not everything that happens to us happens because of us.

j) When you look at successful women, they have other women who have supported them, and they’ve gotten to where they are because of those women.

k) We find our humanity — our will to live and our ability to love — in our connections to one another. Be there for your family and friends. And I mean in person. Not just in a message with a heart emoji.

l) It is the ultimate luxury to combine passion and contribution. It’s also a very clear path to happiness.

m) Build resilience in yourselves. When tragedy or disappointment strike, know that you have the ability to get through absolutely anything. I promise you do. As the saying goes, we are more vulnerable than we ever thought, but we are stronger than we ever imagined.

n) The best antidote to bad speech is a good speech. The best antidote to hate is tolerance.

o) We hold ourselves back in ways both big and small, by lacking self-confidence, by not raising our hands, and by pulling back when we should be leaning in.

q) Bring your whole self to work. I don’t believe we have a professional self Monday through Friday and a real self the rest of the time. It is all professional and it is all personal.

r) I learned that in the face of a void or in the face of any challenge, you can choose joy and meaning.

s) If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask what seat

t) Trying to do it all and expecting it all can be done exactly right is a recipe for disappointment. Perfection is the enemy.

u) We need women at all levels, including the top, to change the dynamic, reshape the conversation, to make sure women’s voices are heard and heeded, not overlooked and ignored.

w) Leadership is not bullying and leadership is not aggression. Leadership is the expectation that you can use your voice for good. That you can make the world a better place.

x) The upside of painful knowledge is so much greater than the downside of blissful ignorance.

y) Knowing that things could be worse should not stop us from trying to make them better.

z) I feel really grateful to the people who encouraged me and helped me develop. Nobody can succeed on their own.

Sandberg is a force to be reckoned with and we are ever appreciative of her support to women striving to reach their ambitions and be the BEST that they can BE.

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About a week ago, I stumbled upon a ‘challenge’ post by Dakore Akande and Feyi Luther Mbanugo called the ‘Stepping out in Faith Challenge’ – #steppingoutinfaithchallenge and it got me inspired to participate as I have discovered that these days, people lack belief in themselves and the power that is assigned to them. This was a 5-day challenge that ended on Saturday but I would still encourage everyone to participate as this will give you all Food for Thought at the end on what affects and also reflects in your life and how to make the change to allow positivity and also productivity!

Day 1 focused on Gratitude and what we are grateful for: I am grateful for still standing in spite of the adversities that I have faced this year and the previous years. I am grateful for His grace upon my life and the new journey that I am currently on. I am grateful for my son and family who have my back. I am grateful for consistency in my career. I am grateful for my blog and the opportunities that have come for expressing my thoughts on paper. I am grateful for friends who have stood by me with truth and love. I am grateful for much more coming my way so I stand and pose with Style, Grace, and Confidence…

Day 2 focused on being Mindful and turning negativity into positivity. I decided to post a quote which speaks a lot about how I choose to tackle life situations these days: “If It doesn’t CHALLENGE You, It doesn’t CHANGE YOU.” That has been my go-to affirmation on life challenges and negative thoughts. Besides, there is a popular quote by the famous philosopher – Friedrich Nietzsche: ‘What Doesn’t Kill You, Makes You Stronger!

Day 3 focused on Forgiveness: letting go of hurt and pain. Boy, can I relate to hurt and pain? But through it all, I realised through experience that I should never give another person the power to control my emotions so I forgive them and move on (but with wisdom and caution). Besides I’m a LEO and we Queens can’t allow that kind of toxins into our lives now, can we ??!

Day 4 focused on MANTRA which is positive words of affirmation to inspire and encourage us in our daily lives. I have so many affirmations to go by and have written various blog posts on the importance of affirmations like: ‘The Gratitude Challenge’ or Be the CEO of Your Life. My favourite bible verse is from Romans 8:28 – “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” & this has been my daily mantra in all situations. When Travis Greene bought the song ‘Intentional’ – it was as if he took my thoughts and made it into a motivating song… And I end up by saying that the power of affirmations bring us closer to what we want by feeling that they’re already in our reach.

Day 5 focused on Letting Go and Letting Our Light Shine. This challenge has taught me that life does have its ups and downs but through it all; it makes us stronger and we should always see the brighter side in the midst of the storm (yea, I know it is easier said than done). But I truly believe in that concept and that is what has kept me going through the challenges of life… I allow myself to always see the good and brighter side thus it has kept me looking much younger than my true age and I ain’t stopping for no-one. Just Live: Let Go and Let GOD!

Well, the challenge ended on Saturday and all participants were told to wait for an announcement advising of the best inspiring posts. Well today, I got to work only to get a notification from @flm_mamak that I have been given a ‘special recognition’ for my posts on the #steppingoutinfaithchallenge which has been enlightening for me.

Drum ? roll !!!!!! Wow, we had so many amazing posts during the #steppingoutinfaithchallenge and honestly, I would have chosen each and every one of you. Well @dakoreea and I came together and chose the 5 best posts and then we just had to give special recognition to two other followers who just blew us away!! So without further ado !!!

The 5 best posts go to:

And special recognition goes to @therenaissancelady and @oluwalonirosay !! Ladies, your stories, and delivery touched our hearts. We are so blessed that the #steppingoutinfaithchallenge touched you all !! I will be announcing a special event on Friday and hope you guys look out for it!! Much love ? cc @dakoreea ™@flm_mamak

As previously said: I would still encourage everyone to participate as this will give you all Food for Thought at the end on what affects and also reflects in your life and how to make the change to allow positivity and also productivity!

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So the beginning of the week which was July 31st, was a special day in my life; it was my birthday or as my one of my special aunt will say; ‘my earth day’ which signified a new season and new beginning – a new year.

But this year has been different from the other previous years that even friends and family were puzzled at my non-excitement which was somewhat worrying. You see, I am known for truly celebrating my birthday every year ever since I was a young girl but I was not anticipating anything special this year nor did I want to celebrate the day. All I wanted to do was just say a little gratitude prayer and just curl in bed with my son. Was that too hard to ask for? 

At times during the course of 2017, it has been difficult to remain centred in this spirit of gratitude for all things big or small that I have experienced this year. I even have to admit that at a certain point, I was all but ready to throw up both my hands in total frustration. But then I was reminded to be grateful for life and the successes that I have experienced and regardless of the losses that have affected me this year – I should look at the positive outlook and second chance that life has given me. I was reminded that life is cyclical and nothing is permanent and so should be able to withstand life’s changing winds with the same resilience that I have seen from those I admire.

That no matter what, through-out this interesting journey, I have learnt that ‘this too shall pass me by’ and so cannot let my downs over-ride my highs. So coming up to my special day; I chose to let those healing words, hugs, smiles and gestures heal and restore me coupled with the grace of God. I chose to look at my life and be grateful that He still has me on earth to do the work I have been assigned so I cannot quit now. 

That being said, I decided to celebrate my birthday with a dinner full of loved ones and was touched by the words expressed by each person on how I have impacted their lives. That made me once again believe in my purpose and gift so here’s a great Thank You to all family and friends walking this incredible journey of restoration with me. This ‘lady’ is back with the roaring spirit that she was born with. 

I am back y’all….

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