Back in November 2017, I saw an Instagram post of a stunning little brown girl and I was so in awe that I went about searching for the source and lol, I came across @creativesoulphoto (the creative team behind the photoshoot). Needless to say, there were even more stunning photos of little brown girls & boys which left me totally speechless and proud. 

The depth and creativity shown through all the photos with the girls & boys looking so confident and radiating were just out of this world. It made me wish something like this was available when I was younger to help me feel more confident in my own skin as a brown girl then and even now, I see myself still trying to have more confidence in my beauty and ability as a woman of colour which is improving for me in this new season. 

For years, out in public, I walked with confidence but behind closed doors, I lived with such a big insecurity, ashamed of my brown (melanin) skin. Inwardly competing with my light-skinned sisters who got all the attention from the brothers and the world in general who saw them as the preferred type of what a Black person should be.

You see I was this skinny, lanky dark-skinned girl who was so conscious of not being pretty enough or sexy enough to be looked at. In school, I was forever skinny and this distressed me so much that I started breaking out in acne that carried on till my early adult years, and built a huge insecurity that grew to greater heights. I felt I had nothing within to use or gain popularity amongst the opposite sex. Then as I got older, I realised that I had the one power to attract the men which were my sensuality which worked well on them. But even though it worked on men – I still was in my feelings over my skin acceptance of being the ‘unattractive’ dark-skinned girl.

Then in college, I started dating a young man who happened to be a top black male model (at the time) and was constantly being ogled by other ladies. And even though, he was so into me, I was still conscious of all these light-skinned sistas wanting him; thus I ended up having this feeling that I was not good enough to be his lady. At this time, I had also added some weight and so went from a size 6/8 to a size 10/12 and was getting comfortable with the idea of now having flesh and liking cloths properly fitting. I loved that feeling of having curves and being admired for it. But still, behind the changes, the insecurity persisted.

One day, my then-boyfriend had a photo-shoot which I attended and when asked if I was a model by one of the photographers, he laughed and responded: “…no-one will ever have her as a model now, will they‘.” That comment triggered the insecurity even more that I swore to show him that I was also worthy of being an attractive brown-skinned girl that can model and so the journey of turning myself into that began. I walked into the ‘Laura Small Modeling Agency & Academy’ (back in Statford, London) and got hired onto their books. But to be included or selected for jobs, I started starving myself of food to fit into the norm of what agents and companies wanted. My starving eventually ended up with me being bulimic (which was one of the symptoms of models in the fashion industry)  and was a way I could maintain the required weight. (Thankfully, I am cured of that ailment and classify myself as a healthy eater now). But this was a way of life for me then and I could not shake it off as I had a point to prove. You see losing or failure was never an option – I needed to show him that his views or opinions did not matter and I was ready to damn any consequence that it might bring.

I ended up becoming a fashion and beauty model who was sought after but that came with even more insecurities. The tales of not being too slim or being too heavy or being too dark or not being the lighter complexion needed for that job. The list goes on and competitiveness to win a casting was the name of the game. Aww, the perils of wanting something but never truly enjoying it was torture. Do not get me wrong, there were huge perks with modelling like ‘money’, ‘gifts’, ‘being recognised’ amongst others but still, my insecurity of being brown-skinned and not attractive enough persisted.

Well, after so many years of disliking my skin, I met an amazing person who taught me to open up and accept Me for who I was. He made me see my SELF_WORTH. I was his Queen and he ensured that I heard it daily. I would also see women like myself, who were so confident in their natural beauty; and honestly Black women all around the world who do not allow, whitewashed beauty standards to curve their confidence!  Eventually, I grew into the notion that I am uniquely created with this precious ‘melanin’ that is sought after by others. My melanin skin glistens in the light and sparkle like diamonds, so why would I want to change to fit a norm. I was and still am GOOD Enough!

I feel like I had to unlearn a lot of things in my life to feel fully confident in my beauty. So it’s refreshing to see young Black girls and women embody what it means to feel confident at an age when I suppressed my own and this is extremely beautiful.

The moral of the story is: Be comfortable in the Skin that you were BORN in … It’s YOURS to carry with Care & Pride!

So here’s to you, @creativesoulphoto: thank you for allowing little brown kids see the beauty in themselves, through the lens and allowing us to appreciate that even more.

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About a week ago, I stumbled upon a ‘challenge’ post by Dakore Akande and Feyi Luther Mbanugo called the ‘Stepping out in Faith Challenge’ – #steppingoutinfaithchallenge and it got me inspired to participate as I have discovered that these days, people lack belief in themselves and the power that is assigned to them. This was a 5-day challenge that ended on Saturday but I would still encourage everyone to participate as this will give you all Food for Thought at the end on what affects and also reflects in your life and how to make the change to allow positivity and also productivity!

Day 1 focused on Gratitude and what we are grateful for: I am grateful for still standing in spite of the adversities that I have faced this year and the previous years. I am grateful for His grace upon my life and the new journey that I am currently on. I am grateful for my son and family who have my back. I am grateful for consistency in my career. I am grateful for my blog and the opportunities that have come for expressing my thoughts on paper. I am grateful for friends who have stood by me with truth and love. I am grateful for much more coming my way so I stand and pose with Style, Grace, and Confidence…

Day 2 focused on being Mindful and turning negativity into positivity. I decided to post a quote which speaks a lot about how I choose to tackle life situations these days: “If It doesn’t CHALLENGE You, It doesn’t CHANGE YOU.” That has been my go-to affirmation on life challenges and negative thoughts. Besides, there is a popular quote by the famous philosopher – Friedrich Nietzsche: ‘What Doesn’t Kill You, Makes You Stronger!

Day 3 focused on Forgiveness: letting go of hurt and pain. Boy, can I relate to hurt and pain? But through it all, I realised through experience that I should never give another person the power to control my emotions so I forgive them and move on (but with wisdom and caution). Besides I’m a LEO and we Queens can’t allow that kind of toxins into our lives now, can we ??!

Day 4 focused on MANTRA which is positive words of affirmation to inspire and encourage us in our daily lives. I have so many affirmations to go by and have written various blog posts on the importance of affirmations like: ‘The Gratitude Challenge’ or Be the CEO of Your Life. My favourite bible verse is from Romans 8:28 – “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” & this has been my daily mantra in all situations. When Travis Greene bought the song ‘Intentional’ – it was as if he took my thoughts and made it into a motivating song… And I end up by saying that the power of affirmations bring us closer to what we want by feeling that they’re already in our reach.

Day 5 focused on Letting Go and Letting Our Light Shine. This challenge has taught me that life does have its ups and downs but through it all; it makes us stronger and we should always see the brighter side in the midst of the storm (yea, I know it is easier said than done). But I truly believe in that concept and that is what has kept me going through the challenges of life… I allow myself to always see the good and brighter side thus it has kept me looking much younger than my true age and I ain’t stopping for no-one. Just Live: Let Go and Let GOD!

Well, the challenge ended on Saturday and all participants were told to wait for an announcement advising of the best inspiring posts. Well today, I got to work only to get a notification from @flm_mamak that I have been given a ‘special recognition’ for my posts on the #steppingoutinfaithchallenge which has been enlightening for me.

Drum ? roll !!!!!! Wow, we had so many amazing posts during the #steppingoutinfaithchallenge and honestly, I would have chosen each and every one of you. Well @dakoreea and I came together and chose the 5 best posts and then we just had to give special recognition to two other followers who just blew us away!! So without further ado !!!

The 5 best posts go to:

And special recognition goes to @therenaissancelady and @oluwalonirosay !! Ladies, your stories, and delivery touched our hearts. We are so blessed that the #steppingoutinfaithchallenge touched you all !! I will be announcing a special event on Friday and hope you guys look out for it!! Much love ? cc @dakoreea ™@flm_mamak

As previously said: I would still encourage everyone to participate as this will give you all Food for Thought at the end on what affects and also reflects in your life and how to make the change to allow positivity and also productivity!

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Happy Monday Beloveds ❤.

Had an interesting conversation with some sista-friends recently on relationships and life and we touched on the word ‘LOVE’ which brought on loads of emotional outbursts and concepts. The only thing that stood out was when it was stated that LOVE is an Action Word and not just an emotion which has always been how I view it.

What’s your concept of LOVE?

Is it just an Emotion or is it an Action Word for you?

Let’s Discuss!

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Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady © 

Over the weekend I came across a 10-minute speech that has impacted me in ways I cannot describe and I advise you all that after watching the attached clip – it will change your life.

In this inspiring speech and interview; Rick Rigsby delivered the best commencement speech and explained how the wisdom of a 3rd grade dropout was what sustained him after the devastating lost of his wife. And who was the third grade dropout – his father, whose teachings have guided him through the most troubling times of his life.

Rick Rigsby: The Wisdom Of A Third Grade Dropout

Over 200 students gathered together during a graduation speech at California State University Maritime Academy where Rigsby talked about his father who he regarded as the smartest person that he knew. “My father taught me to combine knowledge and wisdom to make an impact,” Rigsby said in his speech. “Wisdom comes to you from the unlikeliest of sources, often from failure. The person that gets up off the canvas and keeps growing, that’s the person that will grow their influence.” During his speech, Rigsby also revealed that his first wife died in 1996 of breast cancer which left him devastated but his father gave him advice on how to move on and stay strong in his grief.

Hmmmm, deep food for thought for me right there!!! How to move on and stay strong in my grief (a reflection of my 2017 and the losses that I have experienced).

So who is Dr. Rick Rigsby? According to his website, Dr. Rick Rigsby is the president and CEO of his own company, Rick Rigsby Communications and and founder of Rick Rigsby Ministries in Dallas, Texas. As a motivational speaker, Rick speaks worldwide before top corporations on Wall Street, where he offers corporate coaching, motivational speaking, and encourages people in the audience to become the best versions of themselves.

Well, it certainly seems that Rick Rigsby has overcome many obstacles, and it looks like now his words are inspiring many others through his “Change Your Life” talks. He’s making quite the impact with his incredibly inspiring speeches, as his goal is for all people to live life to the fullest, and be the best possible versions of themselves. In a world filled with so much hate and tragedy lately, maybe we really do need more Rick Rigsby speeches in our lives.

His book Lessons From a Third Grade Dropout can be purchased from Amazon (click on title of book)

Video was sourced from Goalcast, which is an inspiring community for achievers dedicated to helping people improve all aspects of their lives.

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In light of all the mayhem happening worldwide in terms of disasters, hate and violence, especially the terrifying recent Las Vegas shootings, I am yet again reminded of the now famous tweet by Barack Obama shared on the 13th of August 2017: “No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin or his background or his religion…” pic.twitter.com/InZ58zkoAm  – Barack Obama (@BarackObama) August 13, 2017.

The former US president followed the tweet with more from Mandela’s autobiographical Long Walk to Freedom: “People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love. “…For love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Nelson Mandela  Barack Obama (@BarackObama) August 13, 2017

The shootings, killings, hate, racial segregation, discrimination, anti-Semitism, gender equality, genocide, acts of crime and violence all needs to STOP!  And it starts when WE collectively SPEAK OUT and make a STAND!

If we all Learn and Experience what it feels to totally and completely love People without judgement, we will surely learn and experience what it means to be FREE!

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Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady © 

I am proud to announce that as a Brand Ambassador for Breast Health Angels Foundation, Inc. (BHAF) and foundation member of the London Branch, we are having our 2nd Annual 5k Walk ??‍♀️??‍♀️??‍♀️on the same day of 30th of September across 10 cities worldwide

  • London, England
  • Lagos, Nigeria
  • Port-Harcourt, Nigeria
  • Abuja, Nigeria
  • Atlanta, United States
  • Dallas, United States
  • New York, United States
  • Houston, United States
  • Arkansas, United States
  • California, United States

Everyone of us know someone – either a loved one or another experience cancer. In the past few months of 2017, I have known so many people passed onto glory from this dreadful disease both old and young, so you see this cancer is no respecter of age or race and words cannot explain how I much I detest it.

Cancer is a broad term for a class of diseases characterised by abnormal cells that grow and invade healthy cells in the body. Some cancers may eventually spread into other tissues. I have seen and known some loved ones have one of the worst cases of cancer – ‘breast cancer’ which starts in the cells of the breast as a group of cancer cells that can then invade surrounding tissues or spread (metastasize) to other areas of the body.

One survivor is a dear sista-friend by the name of Chika Akwiwu otherwise known as The African Barbie, who is a passionate advocate is on a mission to educate us women on how to detect breast cancer very early and ensure that we get treatment and follow the course of a good and healthy lifestyle.

As a result of her new sense of purpose, she founded a non-profit organization BHAF (Breast Health Angels Foundation, Inc.).  BHAF has Advocacy deeply embedded in its core and is unique because it combines Chika’s experience as a Breast Cancer Survivor alongside her training as a healthcare provider to Educate, Empower and Engage women worldwide. She is a strong advocate for Early Detection because it can make the difference between life and death. BHAF’s mission is to Empower, Encourage, Educate and Engage women to Embrace their breast health and overall well-being through Early Detection and Support Services.

Last October, Chika organised the very first annual 5k Advocacy Walk held in various cities worldwide like London, England; Port-Harcourt & Abuja in Nigeria; Atlanta, LA, Houston, and other states in the US amongst other countries and it was a great and successful movement which helped raise awareness amongst our various communities…  

They say: ‘It takes a Village to SLAY this Cancer so what are YOU waiting for! Join the MOVEMENT and let’s make a Difference…

To find more information on cancer, please visit The African Barbie, (link on text).

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Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©

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Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady © 

Tips on how a perfect partnership can secure your success.

Can you imagine years of teamwork, planning, dreaming and scheming in your own business with a partner. Of boosting each other’s confidence and believing in each other’s ideas.

Do you have THE business idea but require a partner to make IT work.

Questions are constantly being thrown at successful entrepreneurs who have made it in society – when’s the right time to start a business; “most response are whether they have raised finance/proved their model/sussed out the competition, whether they are working with a business partner or going it alone?”

But as sourced via Stylist; if you want to call the shots, stay solo. If teamwork and moral support are what you cherish most, that’s unlikely to change.

FINDING ‘THE ONE’

– If you talk enough with friends and colleagues about your business ideas, you’ll soon meet like-minded souls.

– Look for differences, not similarities. Holly knew I could do things she couldn’t, and vice versa.

– Choosing a colleague-turned-friend is much better than trying to turn a friend into a colleague.

RULES OF ENGAGEMENT

– Set acid tests. Do you know each other’s strengths and weaknesses? Do they complement each other, or will you be fighting over the same turf while other things get neglected?

– Ask awkward questions. We did this early on, via a huge questionnaire. How much money do you want to make? How hard do you want to work? Who’s in charge? Questions that become a lot more awkward a few years later.

– Be sure you share the same big vision and long-term plan: sharing only a dream to get rich just won’t cut it.

– Regroup regularly and communicate. This might be having daily and weekly meetings.

If you’re fortunate enough to find the yin to your yang, grab them with both hands – the effect on your business can be electric.

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Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady © 

Ages ago, it was perceived that blogging was long-form, serious, and crafted whilst Social media was short-form, personal, and spontaneous. … Now blogging and social media not only amicably coexist; they complement each other. The world we live in consists and is somewhat controlled by the use of social media.

As bloggers, it is has been said that we use our blogs to enrich our social media with long-form posts, and to use social media to promote our blog and that is true. There are numerous social media channels around of which we are very active on and today’s highlight is INSTAGRAM

I tend to be more active on instagram as I express myself more through creative visuals. I like to think that instagram compliments my blog but can never replace it. Don’t get me wrong because as a blogger, I put much more effort in my work and provide quality content but my instagram photos are a little more relaxed and brings readers further into my life. You can see more of my daily life, thoughts and much more of which you can get a sense of how I live – like a journal through photos, so why not follow us (click on the link): @therenaissancelady

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So at the weekend, I decided to return back to my Steve Harvey ‘Jump: Take the Leap of Faith to Achieve Your Life of Abundance‘ audio-book and had it on full blast round the house as I packed to head back home to the reality of the hustle life. Once again whilst listening to the audio-book, I was constantly reminded that ‘failure is not an option in this journey of mine and that the power of mindset is everything.

I had previously signed on to do the FREE 21 Day JUMP Challenge with Steve Harvey which was very enlightening, where we were given the tools to get inspired, stay motivated and take the action to Jump to our next level of Success.

With this book/audio-book: Mr. Harvey shows us through his own experiences, how to discover our gifts, envision our dreams and take the steps to become all were were created to be. 

I have been an avid admirer of Steve Harvey and have literally watched him do the leaping right before our eyes, thus I am so excited that he is committed to sharing the principles and preparations that he and others used to override their fears and surge into their unique destiny!

I remember watching a YouTube clip that Steve Harvey did titled ‘You have to Jump‘ where his message was that ‘one needed to JUMP like our life depends on it and because it does, then we truly want and will get a life of peace and abundance.’ In that clip, Mr. Harvey uses those uncomfortable moments to explain his core principles and teach us what it means to JUMP like:

  • identifying the lesson and the blessing in all that life brings our way.
  • isolating particular moments when we must be still and when we must take action.
  • implementing “humble aggression” to achieve our dreams.
  • placing past mistakes in our rear-view mirror and creating a fresh life story.
  • letting go of people who are weighing us down.
  • taking responsibility in the face of adversity.

The mean lessons learned from the clip is how the power of ‘faith’ works – on how the confidence in knowing that leaping will elevate our lives and that we will be caught when we fall. As Steve mentioned: “don’t stand on the cliff of life and watch others soar by.” Jumping is taking a leap of faith and opening ourselves to possibilities that has been placed in front of us.

Mr Harvey, your words of wisdom is the extract from your pains and experiences so many thanks for this… 

Well, you can imagine my excitement when on Tuesday, I saw that my initial weekend post was now re-tweeted by the one and only Steve Harvey. Yeaaaa, this just got me more pumped up to run this race so well.

Mindset even more geared up now. Thanks Mr. Harvey ??

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The stress of work is truly getting to my Program Director that he came round this morning passing out an ‘inspirational quote’ he sourced:

‘If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I know the proper question, I would solve the problem in less than five minutes.’
~ Albert Einstein

Hmmm, so what will you spend your first hour of a solution doing? Let’s discuss…

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I have tried to stay away from American politics even though I am so opinionated about this ‘thing’ called ’45’. But listening to trump’s comments at yesterday’s press conference was a total disgrace to Americans and The World as a whole. His responses in relation to the incident that happened in Charlottesville, Virginia during the violent white supremacist rally over the weekend (where one person was killed and dozens injured) was just unbelievable, despicable and not acceptable at all in any shape or manner. Note that this is the follow-up to his initial response which came 2 days later… 

Well, lil man and I whilst on our way to Central Park that afternoon came across a protest in response to the fascism that happened in Charlottesville and especially due to trump’s lack of speedy response (seeing that his hands type faster than he thinks). So in light of that, we felt it was the brotherly & British thing to do and join the protest by showing our support to our Americans counterparts on what a disgraceful man they have as their leader: a man who does not represent their views or morals …

Yesterday, I was speechless and that’s all I could say. But for how long will it be …?

How long will it take for this man to be removed from the office (that was so sacred to the world) which has now been abused since he came into power.

  • What president gives white supremacy, alt-right and neo-nazis the benefit of the doubt by subtling endorsing them?
  • What president lies through his teeth as if he is slipping water and expects you to accept his lies without questioning?
  • What president claims that the white supremacy, alt-right and nazis groups were partially to blame for the disgraceful disturbance at Charlottesville?
  • What president speaks unfiltered without any remorse to a country which he is supposed to lead?
  • What president gives white supremacists an unequivocal boast in this era in America?

I guess this type of secret messaging was a way for trump to signal his continued support without playing into “MSM (mainstream) media” narratives. On Saturday, he did not denounce the racist mob about the events that unfolded after hundreds of neo-Nazis, white supremacists and Ku Klux Klan members first marched through the city. Instead, he blamed “many sides” for the violence without specially identifying any group. These people support ideas which cost the nation and world so much pain, and yet, he sees nothing wrong with that…

Then yesterday, he turned around and said that counter-protesters did not have proper permits to march and claiming there were good people “on both sides.” The words spilled from his mouth apparently left his WH staff so stunned. As part of a quick PR strategy, I would have thought it will be wise to fly down to Charlottesville to weather the storm of the city and the nation but according to White House officials, there are no plans for ’45’ to visit. Instead of constantly attacking the press (which should be his constant companion at this stage in his seemingly failed leadership), he should step back and listen as they have covered years of other presidents and know the game to help the leaders win over the country.

So until trump hastily calls out racism as a systemic issue in all scenarios instead of the moral failing of a few individuals (as he frequently does), his responses will always be too little too late for the country to accept.

So my advice to ’45’; take time out to study past presidents and their diplomacy and you ‘might’ see yourself admired and respected but then again, going by your business history and presidential history so far, I doubt it…

So again, back to my question: how long will it be …?

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