Sometimes Passion Just Isn’t Enough

Those who know me well are aware that one of my passions is empowering. I love speaking into people’s life and encouraging them to find their true God’s given potential for their lives.

Man on top of mountain. Conceptual design.

It truly excites me to see someone I called ‘my own’ walk into and operate in THEIR CALLING.

Discovering your God-given purpose or gift is really only the first step in creating a fulfilling life. I sourced this article and it was as if the author was speaking my mind so enjoy and be enlightened to reach your POTENTIAL.

Don’t waste time pursuing a passion you haven’t taken the time to perfect. There, I said it! I had to get it off my chest once and for all. In the pop tart, microwave, faster than the speed of light world we live in today, entitlement runs rampant throughout our community. The days of working hard to achieve a goal have basically been tossed out the window. All we know is it’s ours and we want it now; and not like right now, but like yesterday! Who cares if you are naturally good at something? While you’re somewhere pouting about people not recognizing how “good” you are, there are others out there taking the same skill and making it GREAT!

Once you’ve been fortunate enough to realize what the gift is, I believe the equation to true passion driven success may resemble something like this:

GIFT + PASSION + PLANNING + PERFECTING + PURSUING + TIME = PROSPERITY

The problem in our culture is we want to acknowledge the fact that we are passionate about something and just pursue and prosper! Forget planning and who has time to perfect? And don’t mention time! We don’t have time to put the time in. We just want to throw something together and get the reward right now! But honestly, whatever happened to this concept of putting time in, honing your skills, paying your dues? What happened to our ability to recognize that most overnight successes actually work on their craft for 5, 10 or even 15 years before we even hear a faint whisper about who they are?

Are You Really Pursuing The Right GoalsLet’s be clear, your gift is the thing you do the best with the least amount of effort. Your passion is the activity you have a strong desire for or the thing that gives you the most energy. Just because you are passionate about something, it doesn’t mean that it’s your God-given gift.

In other words, it doesn’t mean you’re even good at it. With planning and perfecting, you may become better, but you’d have to put some time into even figure that out and well, that’s where most folks get lost in wasting precious time pursuing dreams that will likely never come true.

Now, with those things I do actually have a shot in the dark at, i.e. speaking, coaching, etc., it’s my job to be intentional about the actions I take on my way to pursuing my passion. In other words, I have to plan ways to exercise my talent as I look towards being recognized for it. It is also my job to perfect this gift which I am passionate about.

Remember, just because I’m good at it, that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t put effort into being great at it. Not to mention, there are people that I will meet along the way that can help me fulfill my goals that much faster. How will I meet them, though if I’m not actively and purposefully putting time into attending the right seminars, joining the right organizations and obtaining the education that will help me perfect what I say I’m passionate about?

follow-your-passion-704Lastly, remember that being prosperous doesn’t always refer to profit or financial gain. Prosper means to flourish, to thrive or to grow. That may mean financially, but can also mean spiritually, emotionally or mentally. Prospering can mean that you’re just all around happier because you’re inundated with work that you love to do.

In a nutshell, it’s time to get passionate about your gift and then put some effort into planning, perfecting and then pursuing it! If you’re not making progress on something you’re passionate about perhaps it’s because you’re skipping a few steps!

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Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady © 

Tomorrow, we bid farewell to a Phenomenal Woman who has impacted so many lives including mine and created a movement of a Healthy Lifestyle and deep inside, I know what she would expect from all of us at her homegoing but I must confess that the opposite will/might happen on the day and I apologise in advance but in all – we will applaud & salute the legend and woman of substance that she is and was. Cause on Sunday, the 11th of September, we lost Nkemakonam Ezeilo or Dr. Kem to the dreadful thing called cancer. A disease that she fought with all her might and use that illness to teach us how to live in the NOW and POSITIVE.

There are not enough words in the dictionary to describe Nkem but in her passing – I was ta11147162_10153699852249914_4281462742149274687_nught to stand by what I believe and make a difference in people’s lives by leaving a positive legacy. That she did…. Once the news of her passing hit Facebook, it was flooded with tributes from all walks of life and I really don’t think she knew how much she touched lives but then again, knowing Nkem and her huge boost of positivity and confidence, I am sure she did and now thinking – Mission Accomplished!

Dr. Kem was a Multi-Award Winning  Family DoctorKeynote SpeakerHealthy Lifestyle Coach and Author who was very passionate about teaching people on how to prevent and reverse chronic illnesses (e.g: Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, Raised Cholesterol, Obesity, Arthritis, etc) using Healthy Lifestyle habits and helping them implement the Lifestyle changes.

She was dubbed the ‘Motivational Medic‘ by the press and was acknowledged as an emerging Leading Authority in the field of Healthy Lifestyle Medicine. She was also dubbed “The Drug-free Family Doctor” (“The Drug-free GP”) for her proven results in treating chronic conditions with healthy lifestyle changes and she walked in that theory. 

She has helped hundreds of people experience positive results in their health such as reduced cholesterol, normalised blood sugar levels, weight loss (or weight gain if underweight.), normalised blood pressure, and so much more – all without medication.

Dr. Kem ran a Private Lifestyle Medicine Clinic in London’s Harley Street – The Healthy Lifestyle Clinic and was very passionate about sharing practical Healthy Lifestyle principles which empower people to take control of their lives and stop being dependent on drugs, fad diets or other gimmicks for their health.

12742517_10153956379544914_2654283935725067172_nShe was an accomplished author and has written several books including one hardback that’s gaining popularity worldwide – “Inspirational Blueprints for Personal Success for Women” – available in all good bookshops and online on amazon.co.uk and www.doctorkem.com . She was in the process of finishing off her next strategy book to be titled: A Practical Healthy Lifestyle.

To be around Nkem, one had to constantly have a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) as she would not tolerate any less on that. She was very passionate about Empowering Women, demanded it and earned the respect of all that knew her as it became her Purpose and Mission Statement to educate people on how to overcome any situation with your mindset.

Dr. Kem’s PURPOSE:

“To educate,  inspire and challenge everyone I meet to realise the innate power within each one, through which truly, ALL things are possible in every area of life – health a12313771_10153781704239914_2516488316828430116_nnd otherwise. To help people THINK differently in order to achieve different outcomes in life.”

“To provide practical, usable information to help people prioritise and improve their health, for if you do not make time NOW for Healthy lifestyle Habits, you will be FORCED to make time for disease sooner or later. Fact. Outward health is a manifestation of your inner world so I teach you how to master the inner world.”

“To positively impact each person I come across so that each life is better for my having been a part of it.”

Dr. Kem’s MISSION STATEMENT:

For Women: “To inspire, educate, encourage and challenge women to be overcomers in every area, to be victors not victims, to manifest their fullest potential spiritually, emotionally,  physically, socially and financially”

For Men, Women, Youth: “To inspire , teach, challenge all to achieve optimal health by first changing the way they THINK about their health, then following through by putting into ACTION proven, evidence-based healthy lifestyle principles, and to excel in their personal and professional lives. To teach people how to Treat The Cause of dise14232456_10154396656806063_6397747071341610491_nase (thus reversing it), rather than just symptoms.

“To do this by providing practical, evidence-based, RESULT-oriented, usable information, tips, techniques and strategies through various media: Information products such as books, articles, seminars/workshops, keynote speeches, consultations live  or virtual – using available appropriate multimedia technology to effectively reach the most number of people in the least amount of time.”

It always baffled me on how she had the strength, given her health challenges to still reach out to others and give a word of encouragement or a bucket full of truth medicine. She made us search and push ourselves to be the best that we can be and that is why she will never be forgotten.

One thing that I admire about her was her heart for being grateful and understanding that positivity overrides any illness or challenges to come and it worked for her. But then on that Sunday evening, God decided that her work/race on earth has been accomplished and thus called her home to rest.

So to you Dr. Kem/Nkem: I bid you farewell on earth and welcome back to our Father above. It 14330155_10209779879350065_2450949038925685482_nsurely was a privilege and honour to have known you and I promise you that I will ensure to constantly be in that Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) state of mind, no matter what the situation ends up being.

La nu udo ezigbo nwanyi aka Agu Nwanyi (I carry that name with pride even more now).

Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady © aka Agu Nwanyi

 

Oprah Winfrey (Photo by Jim Spellman/WireImage)

Oprah Winfrey (Photo by Jim Spellman/WireImage)

Those closer to me will say that I am a dire Oprah Winfrey fan – I call myself ‘her virtual daughter/mentee’ (judge me not); but one of my aspirations has always been to emulate and supersede what she has created.

Her model of business is unlike none other and so here are some of the quotes she has passed on over the years to uplift, motivate and push you to be the best you can be without fear…

One thing I admire about Oprah is her philosophy on life and making the best of what you have on earth.

Her philosophy is multifaceted. Three key elements are:

  1. Take control of your own life
  2. An individual’s choices and thoughts are central
  3. Live your dreams.

You can get a good flavor for Oprah’s philosophy by reading through a list of her quotes, which has been organized by topics:

On controlling your own life

  • We are each responsible for our own life — no other person is or even can be.
  • My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment.
  • Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility.

The importance of what we think and what we choose

  • I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.
  • Everything in your world is created by what you think.
  • With every experience, you alone are painting your own canvas, thought by thought, choice by choice.
  • I believe the choice to be excellent begins with aligning your thoughts and words with the intention to require more from yourself.
  • Become the change you want to see — those are words I live by.
  • Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.

On living the life of your dreams

  • The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.
  • The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but significance — and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning.

On the meaning of life

  • The whole point of being alive is to evolve into the complete person you were intended to be.
  • I define joy as a sustained sense of well-being and internal peace — a connection to what matters.
  • Be more splendid, more extraordinary. Use every moment to fill yourself up.
  • Every day brings a chance for you to draw in a breath, kick off your shoes, and dance.
  • In every aspect of our lives, we are always asking ourselves, How am I of value? What is my worth? Yet I believe that worthiness is our birthright.

On failure & fear

  • Do the one thing you think you cannot do. Fail at it. Try again. Do better the second time. The only people who never tumble are those who never mount the high wire. This is your moment. Own it.
  • Failure is defined by our reaction to it.
  • Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping-stone to greatness.
  • You can take from every experience what it has to offer you. And you cannot be defeated if you just keep taking one breath followed by another.
  • Whatever you fear most has no power — it is your fear that has the power.

On relationships — who do you want around you

  • Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.
  • Every one of us gets through the tough times because somebody is there, standing in the gap to close it for us.
  • Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.

Mind and body

  • Getting my lifelong weight struggle under control has come from a process of treating myself as well as I treat others in every way.
  • It is confidence in our bodies, minds and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures, new directions to grow in, and new lessons to learn – which is what life is all about.
  • I finally realized that being grateful to my body was key to giving more love to myself.

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If you enjoyed these quotes, please feel free to share your comments and tell us what memories you have about Oprah below. 

Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©

uzuriShe is an arresting combination of beauty, strength, and an inimitable style. She is earth mother and goddess, siren and the ever-surreal Nubian Queen.

She is the BLACK WOMAN.

Men appreciate her and call her the breadth of the power of God, God’s gift to the world.  They say they have been blessed to have good BLACK WOMEN in their corners all their lives, helping to guide both their personal and professional lives.  As much as she deserves their love, she has also earned their respect.

She is the BLACK WOMAN.

This woman has a tradition of resilience, spirituality, and optimism that is the essence of her being.  She has had to carry some heavyweights and has done it heroically and is doing it every day.

She is the BLACK WOMAN.

Men marvel at the variety of her beauty and overwhelming tenacity and depth.  They love and respect her for the strength and endurance, confidence and care and support and love that she exhibits unconditionally.  They comment on the wholesome love they have cimg_0833ontinuously encountered all their lives from HER.

She is the BLACK WOMAN.

BLACK WOMAN
: I salute you ’cause you are truly the strength of all kinds… and I am so blessed to be one of you!!!

Dedicated to all my BLACK SISTERS out there. Keep up the spirit: You are truly Unique!! 

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Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©

The fear of making the wrong choice can be completely debilitating. We often get stuck living with the status-quo because it is safe. Unfortunately, the cost of this is a life often unlived: safe, resentful, stuck, stagnant and, worst, empty. Face your fear.

My motto has and will always be: “Failure is the one word I won’t accept!”

Enjoy this sourced-out article as here are some tips to help make the process easier:

1. Write out the decision that you have to make with as much detail as possible.

2. Consider the positive emotions that you want to experience. If possible, feel them in your body.

3. Reflect on situations where you experienced these positive emotions before. What were the circumstances?

4. Imagine yourself making each decision. Imagine the details about what that decision looks and feels like. Pay close attention to your emotions as you imagine each decision.

5. What else is important? Who else needs to be consulted in making this decision? Who else is affected? Who would have helpful insights? Consult them. Get all the information out on the table.

6. Which decision offers more opportunities to experience strong moments?

7. A reversible condition is not conducive to happiness, so avoid giving yourself an out from your choice. Make the decision and commit to it. Pay close attention to your feelings as you make the decision. It is natural to feel nerves and apprehension but know that in time, a decision made with the intention of feeling strong will pay off.

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Having to be right is certain to paralyse us. If we have to know without a doubt that the decisions we are making are the perfect ones, we risk never making any choices at all.

Be aware that you may make mistakes. Mistakes are messengers, letting us know when we are getting closer and when we are moving further away from our destination. They are powerful guides. But do NOT dwell on them.

We become what we think about, so choose to focus instead on all the things that you are doing to proactively and positively move toward your fulfilling life. Be confident that your decisions are made to serve your highest self and always seek what is working about the choices you’ve made.

Share your thoughts in the comments below!

Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©

Resilience-bend-or-break-You will experience setbacks. If you’ve suffered one recently, you may still be reeling, feeling helpless and hopeless. But a crisis can also bring you face-to-face with what really matters. Crisis can clarify, illuminate and force you to take notice of what you might have otherwise missed. It can show you brilliant qualities of yourself that you may not have discovered otherwise. It is often an opportunity to feel discomfort and work it through into a place of greater comfort or understanding, to help you find your true strength.

1. Know that everything you are feeling is absolutely valid.

2. Give yourself the time to feel your feelings deeply. It helps to have someone sit with you and listen to your experience objectively. Ask her not to tell you that “It’s going to be okay.” Just ask her to sit with you and be curious about what you’re feeling. Sharing your feelings will help to dissipate them.

3. When you are ready to feel something new, focus on the moments in your life that still create positive emotions in you. Talk about these moments. Feel these moments. Write these moments down. Hold on to them tightly. They are the platform from which you can move forward.

4. Make an effort to do one activity each week that will provide an opportunity to create and celebrate strong-moments.

Strong Life Plan - Building Resilience 25. Surround yourself with loving, compassionate companions who will support your decisions. Appreciate them.

6. Never let a crisis go to waste. Lock invaluable lessons and insights into your strengths. They will continue to serve you in life. Recall that growth follows your line of questioning, so ask yourself questions like:

“What can I learn from this?

“What is working about this?”

“Where am I feeling strong amid all of this?”

“Where can I use my strengths to help me to overcome this?”

Your questions are generative, meaning you get what you’re asking about. So ask questions that create positive emotional outcomes for you.

Winston Churchill said: “When you’re going through hell, just keep going.” You’re taking the right steps.

Decide to look at a setback from a place of possibility rather than bleakneStrong Life Plan - Building Resiliencess. You ARE on your way up—that’s the attitude to hang on to. Focus on what’s working and the steps that you’re taking to reinforce the positive actions that you’ve already taken.

Remember, attention amplifies, so focusing on self-perceived failures or mistakes will result in a spiralling effect. Focus on the emotional outcomes you want and let your attention amplify them.

Share your thoughts in the comments below! 

Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©

TD JakesThis is one man who teachings ministers to my spirit. There is always truth in what he preaches and this is no different to his numerous books.

Note: The following is excerpted from “The T.D. Jakes Relationship Bible: Life Lessons on Relationships from the Inspired Word of God.”

As sourced from The Huffington Post – this post focuses on the Relationship from the Word of God. The Bible, the world’s most read book, sets forth the greatest story ever told. It is a love story unlike no other, underscored by the countless demonstrations of God’s love for man.

The cross is one of the world’s most visibly recognised icons with its vertically pointing element representing this quintessential union between God and man. It is the intersecting horizontal plane symbolising the day-to-day relationships among humans that especially benefit from the guidance found in the “Inspired Word of God.”

After 35 years of ministry and 30 years of marriage to Serita Jakes, Bishop T.D. Jakes has outlined key life lessons learned from these two great institutions. Six sample “Lessons from the Heart” from The Relationship Bible follow:

  1. Overcoming Our Differences in Relationships.

The art of relationships requires that a man who is very different from his woman finds common ground with her and vice versa. We are meant to balance each other by attracting people whose strengths may be our weaknesses. Together as a result of our differences and unique distinctions, we complement each other. Understanding only comes when you stand under a real desire to know, love, and comprehend the other person, embracing the uniqueness of who they are.

  1. Healthy Relationships Require Emotional and Spiritual Freedom.6 Biblical Lessons on Relationships 2

You often won’t know what you have, let alone need, in your life until you clear the mental and emotional room to experience the here and now. We don’t have to stay buried under the past or cycles of mistakes, even though it may seem insurmountable. You can move on with your life. You have to keep your mental and emotional house clean and in order. Praying, journaling, meditation, and exercise are common ways for you to be sure your emotional issues of the past aren’t seeping into your current relationships.

  1. It Takes Courage to Really Love Someone.

Deciding to love gets harder as you get older. It’s more and more difficult to fall in love because your “faller” gets broken. We’ve all had relationships that didn’t work out for one reason or another. The loss of a relationship can be a traumatic experience and can affect us in our lives for months and sometimes for years. You need to understand what role you played in the relationship’s demise and work to come to peace with your partner’s behaviour as well as your own. No matter what has happened to you, the only hope of a healthy future relationship is to let go of the past.

  1. Healthy Compromise in Relationships.

Negotiating win-win possibilities in relationships often means seeing things through the eyes of the others involved in the situation or problem. In most cases of healthy compromise, both parties feel they are “right.” Healthy compromise is the hallmark of healthy relationships. The Lord’s peace often results when each side comes close to His viewpoint, His perfect plan for both parties. We cannot remain so entrenched in our view that we cannot change or adapt, and we must know when not to compromise too far.

  1. 6 Biblical Lessons on Relationships 1Safeguarding Your Relationships.

In order to maximise your life and relationships, you have to minimise your load. You must focus on what’s important when it comes to your relationships. Lightening your load means knowing when to release things. Most of don’t realise that the key to release ourselves is within our own hands. You can move ahead and conserve your strength for things that count, things you can change, things you can control. Have the wisdom to see the importance of giving you all to your relationships today!

  1. Evaluate Who You Are.

When you see yourself as valuable enough to deserve love and attention from the other person, you form a boundary that you will not compromise. A little self-esteem goes a long way in garnering the courage to ask and answer questions that reveal who you really are and what you really want. Once you look realistically at who you really are and what you desire in a healthy relationship, you are ready to enter into the research that will lead to sound decisions.

Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©

 God’s plan for us is greater than we can imagine. Our job is to believe it!  

Believe In Yourself and Your Plan 3That said, believing in ourselves and our plan is not easy. I can testify to that. I sometimes question my being: 

·         I am good enough?
·         I am smart enough?
·         I am worthy to be granted all these favours? 
·         I am …?

As derived from Essence: if you’re having a hard time believing in your greater purpose, here are nine ways to help:

Identify Your Values

What do you live for? It’s hard to know where you’re going unless you know who you are. Identify and prioritise your values. It’ll be clearer to you what you need in life (and therefore, what’s most important) opposed to what you simply want.

Train Your Belief System

Everything you will have in your life will come about because of your belief that they’re possible. The first step to training your belief system is to use affirmations. Affirmations like “Why am I so confident? Why do I believe in myself? Why do I trust my intuition?” are empowering questions that focus your mind on why you are, in fact, confident.

Steve Jobs' 2005 Stanford Commencement AddressWatch Steve Jobs’ 2005 Stanford Commencement Address

It’s one of the most inspirational speeches I’ve watched on having faith in your purpose. This video is a different kind of soul food! A MUST!

Be Bold

It’s important to realise that no one has ever fallen while stepping out on faith. I think about this single point daily.

Toughen Your Skin

No one ever succeeds without being rejected (many times). Expect to hear the word “no” time after time, and you’ll be ready to overcome, time after time.

Accept Compliments

This is critical towards bolstering your self-esteem, which is an imperative part of stepping into your purpose. Next time someone gives you a compliment, resist the urge to dismiss it, or think to yourself that the person didn’t mean it. Instead, imagine it is true, and you might just find that it is.

Surround Yourself With People Who Believe In You 

Jim Rohn says you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with – he has a point. The common denominator I find in people who excel is that they surround themselves with folks who not only excel in their own right but believe in the potential of their friends.

Believe In Yourself and Your Plan 4Fake It Until You Make It

This begins with simply speaking confidently and assertively (even if you’re not). By simply speaking in a strong manner, you will see you have greater control over your ability to influence. As a result, your actual confidence will grow.

Force Yourself Into the Habit of Believing

Some people are born with an innate self-confidence, but most of us are not that lucky. It’s a good thing we can teach ourselves new habits. Most experts agree it only takes 30 days to change your behaviour. Just like a good exercise program, use the suggestions I gave to map out over the next 30 days what you will do daily to boost your “belief muscle.”

NOW GO ON, MAKE ‘THAT PLAN’ AND MOST OF ALL ‘BELIEVE IN IT AND YOURSELF’.

THE BEST IS YET TO COME!

Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©

Because we are free women,
born of free women, Pearl Cleage - We Speak your Names
who are born of free women,
back as far as time begins,
we celebrate your freedom.

Because we are wise women,
born of wise women,
who are born of wise women,
we celebrate your wisdom.

Because we are strong women,
born of strong women,
who are born of strong women,
we celebrate your strength.

Because we are magical women,
born of magical women,
who are born of magical women,
we celebrate your magic.

My sisters, we are gathered here to speak your names.

We are here because we are your daughters
as surely as if you had conceived us, nurtured us,
carried us in your wombs, and then sent us out into the world to make our mark and see what we see, and be what we be, but better, truer, deeper because of the shining example of your own incandescent lives.

We are here to speak your names because we have enough sense to know that we did not spwe speak your namering full-blown from the forehead of Zeus,
or arrive on the scene like Topsy, our sister once removed, who somehow just grown.
We know that we are walking in footprints made deep by the confident strides
of women who parted the air before them like the forces of nature that you are.

We are here to speak your names because you taught us that the search is always for the truth and that when people show us who they are, we should believe them.

We are here because you taught us that sisterspeak can continue to be our native tongue, no matter how many languages we learn as we move about as citizens of the world and of the ever-evolving universe.

We are here to speak your names because of the way you made for us.
Because of the prayers, you prayed for us.
We are the ones you conjured up, hoping we would have strength enough,
and discipline enough and talent enough, and nerve enough
to step into the light when it turned in our direction, and just smile awhile.

We are the ones you hoped would make you proud
because all of our hard work makes all of yours part of something better, truer, deeper.
Something that lights the way ahead like a lamp unto our feet, as steady as the unforgettable beat of our collective heart.

We speak your names.
We speak your names.

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Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©