are-you-burned-out-4As savvy, young business people, we’re constantly on the go, but sometimes too much hard work can lead to signs of burning out. These telltale signs are your body’s way of trying to get you to slow down and pay attention.

I can testify to that, being a mother, sister, daughter, business woman, blogger, community worker is taking its toll on me and I find myself being snappy towards family and friends when the stress overwhelms me. I tell myself – ‘SELF – YOU NEED TO TAKE A CHILL PILL CAUSE THIS IS NOT HEALTHY TO YOU OR ANYONE’ and then I snap back to becoming HUMAN again.

We are now in the middle of November and almost into the end of the year of 2018 (not too sure how the year just flew by but eh), so as I have advised moi (Me, Myself & I): Do yourself and your workplace a favour by taking heed to avoid a total meltdown. These five solutions will have you back on your feet and feeling back to normal in no time.

You Are Always Late:

* The problem: You worked late last night, so it was difficult to get up when your alarm clock sounded in the morning. Next thing you know, you’re scrambling and usually arrive late.

* The solution: Even if your company is in its busy season (with long overtime hours), try to get out of the office at a reasonable hour. Or talk to your boss about creating a rotating schedule, so the company is covered at all times without you having to work a crazy 12-hour-plus day.

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 Your Desk Is a Mess:

* The problem: You barely have time to get up for a coffee refill, so odd papers, and stuff pile up.

* The solution: Before you start any of your work in the morning, give yourself 10 to 15 minutes to clear off your desk. You’ll find yourself able to concentrate better when your desk is neat and orderly.

You Forget to Eat Lunch:

* The problem: You’re crunching away at your desk when suddenly you feel woozy and realise its 3 p.m. and you still haven’t eaten.

* The solution: Sometime between noon and 2 pm. force yourself to step away from your desk and take care of your body. Your body and brain need protein to fuel your work efforts. Even 15 minutes away from your desk will do wonders for your mental health.

are-you-burned-out-3You’re Struggling to Complete Assignments:

* The problem: Computers often can be your worst enemy when trying to complete an assignment. Emails, IMs, and your ever-updating news feed can keep you distracted from the work at hand.

* The solution: Set yourself up with mini-deadlines to finish assignments. Take a brief look at the header of an email and, unless it requires immediate attention, then wait to respond until your assignment at hand is completed. 

 Your Head Feels Foggy:

* The problem: You’ve lost your vigor and motivation, and it’s hard for you to stay focused.

* The solution: It might be time for you to take a vacation day. Recharging your batteries will help you come back to work more invigorated and ready to take on challenging assignments.

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Apologies for the late post but been bogged down with other projects img_8616which will be posted real soon but in the meantime, life goes on. Anyway back to this journey of the Rebirth – the Renaissance, I made up my mind this year to think out of the box in all I do – thus this blog-header was added to my 2018 manifesto: Think & Ask BIG!

What is thinking, some may ask? When I searched via Google – it stated that ‘Thinking is the process of considering or reasoning about something or using thought or rational judgement.’

‘Thinking big’ means being able to dream and visualise what you can achieve on a large scale: with no limits on your thinking. It is about being open-minded, positive, creative and seeing opportunity in the big picture.

Some believe that “thinking big” means you should set wildly ambitious stretch goals to inspire yourself to greater heights. But it is not: ‘thinking big’ means that we have to step out of our comfort zone and walk into the uncomfortable. Set attainable goals every day of your life.

Thinking big is not easy. It’s something that we must learn to cultivate over time on a daily basis in everything we do. However, even when this habit of thinking big is deeply ingrained into our psyche, there will still be times when barriers will need to be overcome, obstacles will need to be surpassed, and old habits will need to be broken. It is during these times that we need to think big and do bigger things than ever before. It is easier written than done eh. 

To have that positive mental attitude of thinking big – having a strong network of friends is essential. Have that positive network is crucial to one’s growth. They are one to help empower and uplift you to your best potential by ‘keeping it real’ (as the millennial will say). “Often, when we’re asking people to support us, we’re just asking for approval. But if we’re looking for results, we have to be comfortable with the feedback of people asking us to think bigger.” We need to have those who can boldly say NO whenczlgbyawkaanpvo it is needed and also pat us on the back for a job well done. I have an inner circle of people who know when to say Yes or No to this strong-minded lady called Yvonne.

Whether we want to hear it or not, sometimes other people determine whether or not, we are to be successful. So thinking Big requires understanding that the biggest and most meaningful projects simply can’t be accomplished on your own. “Other people are going to open the doors and spread your messages.” So how can you get others involved and inspired to help? It’s all about attitude and reliability, “You make commitments and fulfill them, you learn in action, and you deal with [your own] voices of judgement without being critical of others.”

Finally, big thinkers associate with other big thinkers who are ambitious, motivated and inspire others to think BIGGER, act BIGGER and become BIGGER than they ever imagined was possible.

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Ever had one of those days when things just seem to go wrong from the jump? Like stubbmaking-a-fresh-start-1ing your toe as soon as you get out of bed — talk about starting your day off on the wrong foot! Or your day starts off fine, but one thing goes wrong and everything else seems to go wrong thereafter?

At the start of 2018, people were more focused on making a Fresh Start. The priority was on what was more important to make a fresh start each and every day.

Backroll to the definition of making a fresh start which means to make a new start or to start something again: ‘Renaissance‘. This expression is used when things have not been going so well and a person wants to change their situation. On days like the start of the New Year, many people see an opportunity to make a fresh start, to put any bad situations behind them and to move on to something new. An example: I’m going to put last year behind me and make a fresh start. It is a time of Hope and Change.

Well, why not start each day in the presence of God: let Him be the fuel for the journey ahead. How you get into His presence doesn’t matter, just making the time is important. You may have “your” plan for the day, but God may want to lead you in a totally different direction. We have to learn to be strong enough to depend on God so we can begin to hear God speaking to our hearts. In order for God to give you His direction, He must have your attention.

positive-mental-attitude_designWe are programmed to wish for others and hope for ourselves to have “good days.” But our intent should be to experience “God days” — days that have been orchestrated with steps ordered by God.

God days aren’t based on what happens. They are shaped by the ever-present knowledge of God’s purpose and His promise that He is with us and for us.

Today and every day that you are graced to be alive is a God day. Listen out for the voice of God to lead you. Be determined to walk in the Spirit and stay in the flow of God’s leading way.

Make it a Good Day!!

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When it comes to raising your kids, you may be faced with some of the most challenging parentingadvicemoments of your life. Children are wiser than many of us give them credit for. As a mother, I can surely testify to that – my son is the smartest child I have ever met. I marvel daily at his mannerisms, increasing independence and maturity.

Spend less time teaching them and more time listening to them. They will teach you how to parent to get the best from them.

Develop a mindset of inquisitiveness and curiosity about your child’s unique presence in the world. They are fascinating and interesting, and they want to be accepted for that. They want your attention. They are eager to be recognized for their uniqueness. Shine a light on it.

1. Start with the belief that your kids are naturally resourceful. They know how to help you help them.

2. Look for your children’s strengths from their earliest moments. Pay attention and be inquisitive. Ask them how certain activities make them feel.

3. Expose your children to as many experiences as you can. Give them opportunities to discover and express their natural talents. Do this in order to find out what lies within, rather than trying to round them out. Support what you find, even if their talents aren’t what you hoped they would be.
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4. Guide your children toward mastery in one or two areas.

5. Teach your children how to identify their own strengths.

6. Challenge them to contribute these strengths to others.

7. Let them know what strengthens you and model how you deliberately seek to experience more of these moments. Share your experiences.

8. Don’t worry about them so much. They will be far better served by your belief in their abilities than by your belief in their fallibility.

canstockphoto278062719. Love them.

The gift you give your children when you choose to focus on what they have, rather than on what they don’t, is immeasurable.

Seeking ways to allow them to express the best of themselves, and supporting them no matter how obscure their dreams may be, will undoubtedly give your children a solid platform on which to build a strong, fulfilling life.

Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady ©

Are you a Dreamer? Do you believe in your dreams? Have any of your dreams come to pass? Have you ever shared your dreams with anyone?

blog-2I have to confess that I am a Bonafide Dreamer! I dream of love, money, family, friendships, success and everything else. I loveee dreaming and watching them to come to pass. Well apart from winning the lottery – I dream of all the lottery wins and how to share amongst beloveds and spend but you to play it to win it, so that’s a distance dream that never goes away but will never happen (lol). 

The bible states: “Your old men will dream dreams, and your young men will see visions. Joel 2:28 (NLT)”.  Joseph was a dreamer and all his dreams came to pass so why can’t we do the same and be persistence till it happens. 

I have always had BIG Dreams – right from a young age till date. Yes, I can say that some of these dreams have come to pass and some have not but yet I still continue to Dream and it gets bigger and bigger. You see – the bigger the Dream, the harder the challenge to achieve that dream gets but one thing is guaranteed that once it is called by God – it shall surely come to pass.

You can associate Dreams with Visions and vice versa – Visions are basically the same as dreams, except that dreams happen whilst a person is in a state of sleep and visions will happen whilst the person is fully awake. The reason that Dreams and Visions are prophetic is because they are to do with the visual and seeing aspects of what God is saying.

When you dream – take a visual print-screen of it. Write it down on a piece of paper and then set aside time to start working on it. It will surely take time, hard-work, strength, persistence, patience and much more especially prayers but wait for it and see it manifest to fruition. One note of warning is that there are Dream Killers who are there to place negative thoughts and energy to distract you so prayerfully know who you share your dreams with.

Below are some quotes of dreams from people who fell in that category of dreamers – pursued it and ensured that their dreams came to pass:

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There is a famous saying by Harriet Tubman: “Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”

So as I say to you all: Dream Big or Go Home. No more room for excuses this 2017.

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Empowering-Your-Employees-through-Question-only-ConversationsReflecting on the remaining  months of 2018, I have decided that I really need to empower my Tribe aka My Friendship Circle or in this case, My Followers more in finding and increasing their potential.

One of my passion is empowering people to make themselves accessible to the world in terms of opportunities; whether it be a career, business, relationships or otherwise. I take it as my ‘gift of service’ back to society. I feel that everyone has a talent which can be used to their advantage thus no excuse is needed as to why they cannot make it in life; be it financially or career-wise.

There are so many companies that focus on freelance work that can be done alongside your normal work or why you are waiting for the job which can act or generate a second source of revenue for you.

I have taken the privilege to list some down as I am participating in such and enjoying the rewards that come with it:

The detail here is how to sell yourself when registering for work. You are a product but how do you market the portfolio which is YOURSELF.

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Your portfolio plays a very important role in your quest for good freelance work on these Freelancing websites. This particular section displays your past and present projects, pieces that you’re particularly proud of and that should encourage employers to hire you.

Normally you might just upload screenshots and files and choose the right categories, but it’s possible to tweak your portfolio in ways that will really convince the employer to hire you as his contractor. Here are four excellent tips on how to make your portfolio work better for you:

1. Have a portfolio piece for each service you provide.

You’re a freelancer who specializes in Service A, B, and C. If you’re aiming for employers looking for these three services, showcase work where you used each of your specialties in particular.

For example, I’m a copywriter that loves working with product descriptions, blogging, and website copy. To show employers that these are the services I provide and that I’m good at, I upload three to five portfolio items that display my latest product copywriting, blogging projects, and website copywriting projects. Each one is categorized separately and has their own unique project description.

2. Write a well-written description for each portfolio piece.

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What’s important here is that it’s short and concise enough to tell the prospect what you did with this project, what skills you used, and how you successfully nailed the employer’s goals.  One or two short paragraphs should do the trick.

3. Update your portfolio with the latest screenshots and links.

A screenshot of your latest published article, website, or logo, plus a link to each, will certainly help keep your chances of winning freelance projects high. The employer can easily take a look at the screenshot to see what the project looks like, and then click on the link to see the actual work up close.

If you’ve made any changes to your old portfolio pieces, make sure to take and upload a new screenshot of it and that its URL is correct.

4. Delete or revamp old projects that don’t reflect your skills as a freelancer.

DeleteChances are you have old projects in your portfolio that you’ve outgrown already. Now that you’ve honed and improved your skills, you wouldn’t want your future employers to see obsolete projects that don’t truly reflect how good you’ve become.

Your best bet would be to either revamp these old projects using your latest skills or delete them all together. If you feel that these projects still matter to you, you can edit them by applying new techniques to make them look shiny and new again. Otherwise, just delete these projects and make room for new ones.

Here’s a bonus tip: Don’t settle. Every project you bring to the table comes with a hefty side dish of experience and growth, both of which will make you a more valuable professional in the market.

Research these sites to see which skills-set you can profile and provide to clients. There are FREE to register but you must market/brand yourself as the job only goes to the best or those who sell themselves. This improvement is what you want your employers to see, so don’t ever hesitate to push out excellent work each and every time. As soon as your employer gives permission to use the finished project in your portfolio, upload the screenshot, paste the link, and point it out to the next employer in line.

congratulations-1Lastly, may I be the first person to congratulate you on this new step of empowerment and encourage you to spread your wings to the world of opportunities around and available to you!

Take a look at your portfolio right now. How is it doing? Is it bringing in new interview invitations, or does it need a fresh start?

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Being the sensitive (and strong – do not even think about challenging me on that statement) woman that I am; I tend to get hurt easily by people’s actions and lost friendships used to affect me badly that my health started to dwindle. But once I knew the Word: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked shall I return. The LORD gave, and the LORD has taken away; blessed be the name of the LORD.” (Job 1:21); I learned that we are all individuals and nothing last forever apart from the LOVE of GOD and decided to start LETTING GO!  I can imageshear you all now singing like I am ‘let it go, let it go, can’t hold it back anymore..

One pastor who sincerely ministers to my spirit with his preaching is Bishop TD Jakes of the Potters House, Dallas, TX and every year; his poem ‘Let IT Go’ has been passed on to people as a source of encouragement.  Read and be blessed…

There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone. When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. ‘For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]’ 
HandsPeople leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay. Let them go. 

And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead. You’ve got to know when it’s dead. You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He’ll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it. Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!! 

If you are holding on to something that doesn’t belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains … LET IT GO!!!

If someone can’t treat you right, love you back, and see your worth…LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you … LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge. LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction … LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents … LET IT GO!!! 

If you have a bad attitude…LET IT GO!!! 
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If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better… LET IT GO!!! 

If you’re stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him… LET IT GO!!! 

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship… LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won’t even try to help themselves…LET IT GO!!!

If you’re feeling depressed and stressed… LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handle yourself and God is saying, “Take your hands off of it,” then you need to… LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things. GOD is doing a new thing in YOUR LIFE SO LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left. Think about it, and then LET IT GO!!! 

“The Battle is the Lord’s!” 

Next, stop and think and appreciate God’s power in your life, for doing what you know is pleasing to Him.

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IMG_7214A strong woman works out every day to keep her body in shape, but a woman of strength kneels in prayer to keep her soul in shape.

A strong woman is not afraid of anything, but a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of her fear.

A strong woman won’t let anyone get the best of her, but a woman of strength gives the nest of her to everyone.

A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future, but a woman of strength realises that life’s mistakes can also be God’s blessings and capitalises on them.

A strong woman walks surefootedly, but a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls.

A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face, but a woman of strength wears grace.

A strong woman has faith that she is strong enough for the journey, but a woman of strength has faith that it is in the journey that she will become strong. 

To SistaHood: I celebrate YOU because you have helped me become who I am today!

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ageAge is only a number, many people know this line, but only a few really live by it. A lot of people around the world reach the age of 30 and walk around with a feeling that they have failed in life because they didn’t get to live their dreams. Well, to those people who say don’t give up just yet; most times in life, it takes longer to really accomplish yourself and it’s literally never too late! Just work hard and chase your dreams and everything will fall into place.

See some examples below to cheer you up and share this with a friend who needs to see this right now.

At age 23, Oprah was fired from her first reporting job.

At age 24, Stephen King was working as a Janitor and living in a trailer.

At age 28, J.K. Rowling was a suicidal single parent living on welfare.

At age 30, Harrison Ford was a carpenter.

Vera Wang failed to make the Olympic figure skating team, didn’t get the Editor-in-Chief position at Vogue, and designed her first dress at 40.

Alan Rickman gave up his graphic design career to pursue acting at age 42.

Samuel L Jackson didn’t get his first movie role until he was 46.

Morgan Freeman landed his first MAJOR movie role at 52.
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Louise Hay didn’t launch her publishing company, Hay House until she was 62.

If you haven’t found your dream career yet, it’s not too late. You aren’t a failure because you haven’t found got it all figured out by the age of 30. Hell, it’s OK if you don’t even know what your dream career is yet.

  • Never tell yourself you’re too old to make it.
  • Never tell yourself you missed your chance.
  • Never tell yourself that you aren’t good enough.

Whatever you were born to do, You can still do it.

All these examples and more just prove that age is only a number, you can achieve your dreams at any time, just work hard to get them.

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So I got told a few weeks ago that most times I exhibit the Alpha Female traits which I guess can be somewhat true and so got me putting on my journalistic specs to do some research. Being an alpha female is, for the most part, pretty awesome from what I gathered. Now understand that this is not a male-bashing article but the alpha female is the new definition is what it means to be a woman. She is feminine, fierce, and intelligent. She is the prototype for women in the future.female-alpha

The Alpha Female is a strong, majestic female. She can often be intimidating to those around her and isn’t afraid to ask for what she wants. She is so successful in her career and has a solid group of friends to rely on. You must admit that there is nothing quite as brilliant as a woman with confidence and ambition. The alpha female is known to be supreme among females as other females often look to her for leadership. However there are some who feel threatened, because this woman tolerates no nonsense and does not believe in game playing and one-upmanship.

She (The Alpha Female) is known as the Highly Successful, Self-Confident, and Independent Woman. 

So tell me, how would you know an alpha female when you meet her? Here are ten ways as derived from Paired Life then ascertain whether you fall into any of those traits:

  • She is never embarrassed to ask for what she wants: “Assertive” is not a word that she is uncomfortable with. In fact, being assertive is second nature to her. She believes that all right-thinking people should negotiate explicitly to get their desires and needs met. She believes you are responsible for your own life. Refusing to ask for what one wants is anathema to her. Negotiation is what life is all about. Holding her tongue, toeing the line, and waiting for others to magically notice and reward her is simply not something she’d ever do. Her motto is that life is for the takers and participators.
  • alpha-female-about-meShe enjoys being in an equal or superior position to men: And why not, I will add? The idea that she must subvert or minimalise her attributes, intelligence, or other strong characteristics because she is a woman is so old fashioned. Who says that men have to be the breadwinners? Not her. To her, traditional gender roles are just so 19th century. She believes that a confident, intelligent, and mature man is not threatened by a powerful and highly successful woman. In fact, such men should be overjoyed that such women exist. Furthermore, she believes that men are just people, no more, no less. She does not believe in playing the weak damsel in distress. In fact, she is loathe to play silly, coquettish games of any kind. Inane affectations sicken her, to say the very least. Her motto: Weak and insecure men need not apply!
  • She is not passive regarding the pursuance of any type of pleasure: To her, being a woman is not equated with being passive. Not at all. Being indecisive and wishy-washy is not in her nature. She is oftentimes the initiator in seeking all avenues of fulfilment, including the sexual. To be passive in her eyes means to be acquiescent in life and she is anything but. To her, passivity is equivalent to being owned and she does not want to be owned—not by tangible and/or intangible constructs. She is proactive in her approach to life. To her, life is for the takers!
  • She does not mind being wildly and uninhibitedly feminine and sexy: To her, being feminine, beautiful, and sexy are not antitheses to being independent, powerful, and liberated. In fact, the former are analogous to the latter. She views sexual stereotypes as limited and atavistic labels that preclude women from becoming full human beings. She believes that people transcend stereotypes, which are only artificial constructs that limit individuals. To her, the old stereotype of being a feminine woman is morbidly suffocating. She refuses to believe that being beautiful, feminine, sexy, liberated, powerful, and independent is oxymoronic.
  • She does not mind if a man earns less than she does, as long as he contributes to the relationship and upholds his end regarding household responsibilities: Who says that a man has to earn more than a woman? Not her. She does not subscribe to such outdated and utterly sexist paradigms and philosophies. She believes what a person earns should have nothing to do with their gender. She feels that it is quite normal and acceptable for a woman to out-earn a man. She does not mind being the sole breadwinner in the family, if need be.
  • She believes in having a career to establish her self-worth and independence: She believes in being a contributor in life and that when one contributes, one becomes truly a full, worthy, and authentic person. Furthermore, a contributor always leaves a posthuimagesmous mark on society and the world at large. In other words, contributors make an imprint on life. A career helps her do that. It’s a way for her to use and exhibit her intelligence and talent for the world to see. She also gets a sense of self-actualization. In her eyes, nothing makes a woman more self-fulfilled than a satisfying career. A career means power and power has its own rewards. Being powerful means being a shot-caller, which translates into ownership. Nothing makes an alpha woman happier than to own and be in charge of her destiny.
  • She thrives on being in responsible positions. Being responsible for others equates to power for her: She believes that she is more than capable of the task at hand. Since she knows that for a fact, who is better than she to assume high powered and responsible positions? She is the best at what she does and no one can do it better. To her, power is an integral part of the human construct: Either one has it (which means that one can be highly proactive and influential in the events of humankind) or one is utterly powerless, always bowing to the desires of others. She refuses to be put on a proverbial leash. She only answers to herself. That power allows her to become a mentor and help others by cultivating, encouraging, and developing their human potential. She does this for her own good and for that of the firm.
  • She refuses to believe in the antiquated concept that one becomes less agile and more infirm with age: Age is just a number to her, one that means nothing in the larger scheme of things. She is the type who remains vital and sharp in her old age. She thinks that anyone who succumbs to the atavistic stereotypes of age needs a good psychiatrist, or better yet, should starting broadening his/her life perception, and fast! She, for one, is not going to become an old lady. Think of Betty White (a nonagenarian) and Rita Moreno (an octogenarian)— both vibrant, lively ladies who totally exemplify that one is only as old as one believes. These ladies get even fiercer with each passing year!
  • 70536ea6978d45dd8828a77712121f78She does not complain or whine: She sees complaining and whining as abject passivity and a refusal to improve the negative circumstances of one’s life. She figures that if one is mentally healthy and mature, one can remedy one’s life instead of whining about it. She knows that everyone’s life has some amount of difficulty and hardship. To just complain and whine is a total waste of energy. That energy is better used in assessing, challenging, and overcoming those adversities. Besides, other people are uninterested in listening to your lamentations. She staunchly believes that complainers are wimps who should be horsewhipped into maturity! There is nothing further to say.
  • She doesn’t believe in excuses: She believes if one makes one bed, he/she should lie in it, either for good or bad. In other words, one reaps what one sows. If one exerts little or no effort, one shouldn’t expect a reward. She finds it ludicrous that many people want success in life but refuse to put in the necessary work, planning, and sacrifices to get it. When they do not achieve their dreams, they blame everyone and everything but themselves. This excuse-making really incenses her to the nth degree. Stop with the excuses already, she insists. Her motto is that each person has what he/she deserves, nothing more and nothing less!

originalTo summarise, the alpha female is a no-nonsense woman who’s supremely confident and self-assured. She knows what she wants and how to ask for and obtain it. She is a true realist: no sugarcoating for her. She likes life at its most unadulterated essence. She appreciates the good and can learn from the bad. She also knows how to make the more negative aspects and situations of life exceedingly beneficial.

She does not believe in antiquated gender roles. She is beyond stereotypes. She is a take-charge woman who makes no excuses. She is and has what she earns and deserves.

The alpha female is unique! In fact, she is the prototype of women in the 21st century and beyond.

The Alpha Woman Is the Future!

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This March is celebrated as Women’s History Month, which is an annual declared month that highlights the contributions of women to events in history and contemporary society, corresponding with International Women’s Day on March 8

Am sure you will remember earlier on in the year, we celebrated the centenary of the 1918 Representation of the People Act which gave the vote to some women for the first time #Vote100 and the 1928 Equal Franchise Act which gave the vote to all women over the age of 21.

Not being bias but I strongly believe WE are the backbone of society. We have so many qualities that make us stand out like Empathy, Strength, Attention to Detail, Calm under Pressure, Intuition, Being Open, Support, Collaborators amongst others.

A woman is the only person I know that can carry the burden of the family without the expectation that someone will feel her pain or cry her tears. She is always the first one to wake up and the last to go to bed. She is courageous and independent. A woman will do whatever it takes to survive and my final phase is that img_0833
SHE is the backbone that holds everyone together (. . . behind every strong man there is a strong woman).

Well, I decided to revisit an old blog post titled: Who is My Elizabeth? About this time last year, I was pondering about my 2017 and the excitable journey ahead and whilst doing that; had time to evaluate on various relationships  I felt that the journey I was embarking on, needed some serious, loyal and dependable passengers on the ride with me so it is essential for clarity and oneness of mind who I had to chose. 

It is well known that you get a group of women together and we can talk and talk for hours (yes we do like a talk or two as we can’t help it), that is how God wired us. When I have something big happening in my life, after talking to my beloved mother, my next impulse is to call some of my inner circle of sistas (you should always have an inner circle of dependable friends) to seek counsel from or just pour yourself out to with no judgment whatsoever. I have been blessed to surround myself with some amazing sista-network like Inspired Women of Worth (iWoW) or my amazing 89’ers from the boarding school days at the prestigious Federal Government Girls College, Abuloma (FGGC Abuloma) in Nigeria.

I remember then receiving a text from some of our inner circle of sistas on a topic that had been on my mind and it was maryandelizabeth1titled: Who is my ELIZABETH? This was serious food for thought!

When Mary, was given the biggest news of her life, she had no husband to confide in. Her first instinct after her visit from the angel of the Lord was to immediately go out and seek Godly counsel from her cousin Elizabeth. Mary didn’t waste any time, she went with haste. 

As a Christian woman, who is your Elizabeth? Who do you rush to in a hurry? Who do you seek for your Godly counsel? If you don’t have an Elizabeth of your very own, ask God to put one in your life. Below are a few characteristics to look for in your Elizabeth. 

Your Elizabeth should:

  • Have a steadfast walk with the Lord.
  • Give Godly counsel in truth and love.
  • Encourage you in your walk in faith.
  • Encourage you in your singleness or marriage, studies, career, and relationships.
  • Be someone whom you desire to learn from.
  • Pray for you and encourage you when you are down and out with life stress.
  • Rejoice in your successes.
  • See your God-given gifts and encourage you to use them.

Your Elizabeth should not:

  • Gossip with others about things you have shared.
  • Disrespect your partner or family.
  • Remind you of past failures, or make fun of your shortcomings.
  • Pull you away from others.
  • Discourage you from serving the Lord.
  • Be in competition with you, or insecure in your achievements.
  • Your Elizabeth should not take the Glory of God for herself by saying I prayed for her that’s why she is driving this car or that’s why she has gotten that job.

The last photo (above) shows some of the most important ‘Elizabeths‘, I have known all my life and though, we may not speak often, I know that there is a listening ear who believes in me and my purpose and I would not trade them for the world! This is what you call Sista-Love.

Take a moment, evaluate those around your circle then ask yourself, “Who is my ELIZABETH?” 

Happy Women’s History Month Beloveds

Yours in love – The Renaissance Lady © 

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Have you ever heard the acronym for ‘J-O-B’ which stands for “Just Over Broke.” Food for Thoughts eh!

Funny how at the beginning of each year, we all get our financial planning caps on – making that claim to be financially free by end of the year. The question is: how many of us actually get to achieve that goal?

Earlier in the month, I was sent a FaceBook video clip titled  ‘Stop Going Broke Trying to Impress People’ by MJ Harris (an internationally recognized financial services CEO and motivational success teacher), which was to enable me on this financial journey (part of my yearly Manifesto) that I am on. I have to honestly say that watching the video clip spoke the truth on all sorts of level but the most important truth received was: Being Real to Myself!

My interpretation from watching the video (see below) was a summary of the ideology of money and its definition or purposed definition: ‘Poor is eternal, Broke is temporary’. Questions starting flowing through my mind querying whether we ever do get ‘broke’ or ‘poor’? Does such a word like ‘poor’ or ‘broke’ actually manifest itself in one’s life? Below are a few answers I sourced online:

  • Poor is a state of mind, broke is a state of wallet.
  • Poor is when you don’t know how to manage money, broke is when you go bankrupt because you can’t pay medical bills.
  • Poor people are always broke, broke people are broke for a while.

So my question is: are you tired of being poor or broke? There was a time I used to call those words like it was part of my daily vocabulary because I never had the financial education need to curb my lifestyle and needs (or should I say wants).

I can honestly say that I have never been poor but it has not been long since I have been ‘BROKE’ (actually as of last week, I was – hmmmm), and I can still remember exactly what it felt like. I can picture all the ugly details of the way I used to struggle; the empty bank account, the awkward moments, the feelings of despair and embarrassed to approach my family for help or even friends and keep up appearances so not to be ostracised. Well, truth be told again – I have not totally learned my lessons but step-by-step, I am getting there.

I recall Iyanla Vanzant during an affirmation session years ago encouraging us to substitute the word ‘broke’ to being ‘temporary out of money‘. That changed my mindset in ways I cannot even describe. Broke is how much you keep and not how much you make? I made up my mind that for the rest of my life, I have to continue to increase wealth and leave a legacy so my mindset is being tuned to challenging myself financially like cutting off unnecessary expenses (for starters).  Being temporary out of money has given me an entirely different perspective on cash flow, debt, and my own financial well-being. I have learned that there is a big difference between looking like ‘you have money’ and ‘actually having money’.

IMG_8700When I was younger, I took the concept of lifestyle inflation to a whole new level. Shopping was my ‘middle name’. I just knew I had to have the best things in life (no matter the cost) but as I became a mother, I had to learn about living within my means and the real-life consequences of unplanned purchases (well another truth be told – this is still a constant challenge). And most importantly, I have become willing to do anything and everything to make sure that I will never be broke AGAIN. And YES, I must confess that I have failed on numerous occasions since becoming an adult but some of the lessons from that part of my life have stuck with me.

My target to be completely out of DEBT is by April 2018 and quite frankly, once I am out of debt, I have made a pledge never to put myself in that situation again. I made myself a promise to rise above my situation and start with a clean slate. And I am doing just that. 

Have you ever been flat broke? If so, what did you learn from it? 

Share your thoughts about in the comments below.

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